Thursday

Trust yourself enough to find the answers you need within yourself rather than looking outside yourself. Let other people's thoughts point you in the direction of finding your own answers because it is your answers that are guaranteed to work for you. No guarantee comes with trying to make other people's answers work for you.

No one has the EXACT answers you need except for yourself. You have the answers inside you and they will appear if you allow them to appear.

Fear thoughts disconnect you from SOURCE. The purpose of Source is to supply you with the messages of guidance and advice you need so that life will be easy for you. When you dismiss 'fear thoughts' as the wrong thoughts for you, you are automatically reconnected to Source.

Worry is NOT what you think it is.

Worry is not what you think it is. Worry is an ALERT signal from the Universe. It is letting you know you have a situation in your life, right now, that requires an answer or solution  that you do not have.  Worry is ALERTING you to turn your situation over to the higher part of your personality, the part that is connected to the 'Organizing Intelligence of the Universe.'  If you act on the ALERT signal and turn it over, SOURCE will solve your problem for you. It will do so in one of two ways. It will simply make your problem disappear or it will flood your mind with insights and answers so you can successfully solve the problem yourself. For that to happen, you must turn it over. 

Frederick Zappone

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The more you trust the 'Organizing Intelligence of the Universe' to guide and protect you, the more life will change for you. You will witness feats of 'real life magic' that will amaze and delight you and defy all of your logical explanations to explain, to anyone, how they happened.

In each and every moment of your life the thoughts that you are thinking are either making you stronger or making you weaker. Choose your thoughts wisely.

Feelng Bad Alerts you that you're living against your Truth.

If you BELIEVE 'Universal Intellgence' is on your side and workng in your favor, it will supply you wth 'proof and evdence' that it is. The opposite is also true.

You know how your life has turned out so far by not TRUSTING the 'organizing intelligence of the Universe' to guide you in making all of your dreams come true. Why not trust and see how that works out for you.

Doing more when you don't feel like doing more is one way you abuse yourself rather than taking good care of yourself.

If you leave your doubts alone, they'll leave you alone. If you mess with your doubts, they'll mess you up real good.

Good feelings ALERT you that you're thinking thoughts and taking actions that are moving you closer to your dreams manifesting themselves into your physical reality.

The Purpose of life is to be HAPPY and feel LOVED and then share your Happiness and Love with others.

To become the MASTER of your life become the OBERVER of your thoughts and feelings rather than the unwitting victim of them.

The safety, protection and security you are looking for can only be found deep inside of you. Go beyond your thoughts and feelings to the place within you where peace and contentment, everlasting, lives.

Fear closes the mind to the answers you seek while love opens your mind so you can see answers, solutions, opportunities and possibilities everywhere.

Trust is necessary for you to experience the 'higher part of your personality' EASILY solving difficult problems for you that your limited ego cannot solve for you.

When you trust and turn over whatever is troubling you to the 'organizing intelligence of the Universe' it will do for you what you cannot do for yourself.

Feeling GOOD Insight #131, Thursday February, 28, 2019

What hurts us the most are the judgments we make against ourselves.  To remove a significant amount of hurt from your life give up judging yourself. And forgive yourself for the judgments you have made against yourself. Finally, stop using other people's judgments of you as an excuse to judge yourself.  It is bad enough that other people judge you but using their judgments of you as an excuse to judge yourself hurts twice as much. - Frederick Zappone

Wednesday

If it doesn't FEEL like the right thing for you to do, trust that feeling. If you do not trust that feeling, the results of not trusting that feeling will be on you.

Pain and Suffering are ALWAYS a result of living against or in opposition to our 'personal truth.' If you be true to 'your truth' life will become incredibly EASY for you.

Nothing can defeat you except your thoughts or your thoughts about other people's thoughts, still your thoughts

If you keep avoiding loving yourself, the universe will keep sending people into your life who will avoid loving you too.

To overcome obstacles and roadblocks be like the 'WIND and WATER and flow up, over, around or under what is between you and what you want out of life.

I have no allegiance to any belief, dogma, doctrine or philosophy. My only allegiance are to thoughts that inspire and empower me and makes me feel good to be me.



Doing what makes you unhappy will not make you happy, it will only make you more unhappy.

Over time I developed a SUPER POWER. My super power is making people happy, it makes me happy too. 😊

Feeling GOOD acting like a 'cosmic magnet' reaches out into the Universe and attracts good things back to you.

Gratitude attracts more of the things you are grateful for while being ungrateful attracts less of them.

We never get rid of our addictions, we just substitute bad addictions for good ones such as being addicted to positive feelings and giving up our addiction to negative ones.

All the ANSWERS you seek live inside of you. If you do not go within, you will go without.

If your ACTIONS are based on the 'good feelings' inside of you, you will attract good things to you.

You'll never know the THRILL of attracting things to you if you are always busy pursuing and chasing after things.

Do not GIVE of yourself to ungrateful people because if you do, over time, you will resent their lack of gratitude.

It's SIMPLE. To be happy do what makes you happy. If you don't and your unhappy, then that's on you.

Happiness ATTRACTS what you want to you while FEAR pushes the things you want away from you.

Pursuing things coming the fear of not having what you want pushes what you want away from you.

What people think of you is NONE of your business while the good opinion you have of yourself is your business.

Acting on the Temptation to DO more when you don't feel like doing more pushes what you want away from you.

Feeling that you are thinking or acting FOOLISH is only a feeling that will change when you change your thoughts.

You thinking that people are JUDGING YOU is the way you use your thoughts to undermine your Self-Confidence


To show up in the world as BRILLIANT you have to RISK making a JACKASS of yourself from time to time.

Trust that your DESIRES will come true and the Universe will supply you with evidence that they are coming true.

Reminder: Doing those things that make you HAPPY and give you JOY attracts the good things you want to you.

Giving more of yourself when you don't have more to give PUSHES the things you want away from you.

Feeling GOOD Insight #132, Wed., February, 27, 2019

The 'organizing intelligence of the universe' that many people call God is listening to your thoughts. This intelligence does not judge you in any way and it does not interfere with your free will. That means whatever thoughts you choose to  entertain in your mind, this intelligence will give you the physical manifestation of them. Choose the thoughts you are going to focus on wisely. Choose thoughts that inspire and empower you rather than ones that discourage and defeat you.


Tuesday

The JOY of Sharing (Sharing is Caring)

I learned a long time ago that I could care about people or care what people thoughts about me and I could not have it both ways. I made the choice to care about people (to care about their happiness and well-being).  When I discover insights that  make life easier for me I experience great JOY is sharing those insights with other people.

I must admit I am thrilled when people support my inspirational writings with a donation or buy my books or programs. However that cannot be the reason I share my 'life enriching' insights with people. 

HAVING NO EXPECTATIONS ALLOWS ME TO BE SURPRISED

If I share what I know with people with the intention of  getting something back from them I will, often times, be disappointed. However, if I share strictly because I CARE then I experience great joy in my sharing. And when people choose to give something back to me in return for what I've given them I am unexpectedly and delightfully surprised by them.  

Frederick Zappone



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Action taken for the JOY of doing it ATTRACTS

Any action you take for the happiness it brings you will attract good things to you very quickly. Actions taken to impress people or to talk them into doing something you want them to do like buying your self-help or spiritual growth programs rarely work. 

On the other hand, If you are selling people things they need such as soap or toilet paper then trying to impress them or talk them into buying your product will work. Promotion works very well with tangible products but not so well with intangible products like personal growth programs.  

What works in selling intangible products like self-help programs is not selling them at all but rather only taking actions to get your product known to people that creates happiness within you.

Frederick Zappone

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Taking Actions that make you 'Feel Bad' are BAD for you.

Actions that feel bad are WARNING me that those are the wrong actions for me to take. The whole purpose of feeling bad is to ALERT me that I am thinking thoughts or taking actions that are the wrong thoughts or actions for me. They may be perfectly fine for someone else but they are definitely wrong for me. When you take actions that make you feel negative in any way (struggle, effort, stress) you are not attracting to yourself what you want, you are pushing what you want away from you. 

Frederick Zappone

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Do you BELIEVE you have to do something to get what you want even if it makes you feel negative to do it..

I believed for a very long time that I had to do things to get what I wanted even if it made me feel negative to do it. Boy was I ever wrong.  All taking actions that made me feel negative ever did for me was to keep what I wanted at a distance from me always outside my reach.

Today I refuse to take any action to get what I want that makes me feel negative in any way. I only take actions that energize me, actions that inspire and empower me and make me feel good to be me. Those kinds of actions work, very quickly, in getting me what I want. So quickly in fact, that at times, it feels as if magic is at work in my life. 😊

Frederick Zappone

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Feeling GOOD Insight #133, Tuesday February, 26, 2019

When feeling poorly focus on repeating to yourself  the words I FEEL GOOD and you will end up feeling good. Why? Because whatever we FOCUS our attention on, we attract more of the same. By focusing on repeating the way you want to feel, you will end up feeling that way.


Monday

A Simple Article that teaches you how to EASILY attract an ABUNDANCE of love, health and money into your life

How many of you understand that if you come from the place of abundance inside of you, you will attract abundance outside of you.  If you don't understand this, continue reading.

There are places inside of you that create the REALITY outside of you.  You have plenty of experience with one of those places and it is the place called lack.  Every time you worry, you are experiencing the lack vibration. Every time you are anxious, you are experiencing the lack vibration. Every time you are fearful, you are experiencing the lack vibration. Every time you experience struggle, you are experiencing the lack vibration. And every time you experience the lack vibration you cause lack to manifest itself your physical reality.

You say you don't want lack in your life but you are addicted to feelings of lack. You have been addicted to them from a very young age when society began programming you to become addicted to them. That is the predominate feeling most of you have known since childhood.


THINK ABOUT THIS:

When you worry about love, money or health, you are coming from the lack feeling.  If it wasn't for the feeling of lack, you wouldn't worry at all.  

Society has convinced you that there is a lack of love, health and money in this world. Once they convince you of lack, they make huge profits off of your feelings of lack.  One example. The health profession scares you into spending tons of money on your health because they have convinced you that you lack the ability to heal yourself. 

The company you work for has convinced you that without them you would have a lack of money.  And the saddest lack of all is people believing their is a lack of love in this world. Because you believe in a lack of love you suffer from a lack of it and that causes you all kinds of  unnecessary mental and emotional problems. That's the bad news.

The good news is there's place inside of you called ABUNDANCE. 

Abundance has a completely different feel to it than lack does.  The abundance feeling causes you to experience a worry free life. Abundance attracts inspired thoughts into your mind that allow you to create all the abundance you can handle in all areas of your life. 

The place of abundance inside of you makes you feel free to be you. To experience the place of abundance inside of you, you have to take your FOCUS off of the lack feeling inside of you.

Where do you predominately feel the lack feeling in your body? 

In order for the 'lack feeling' to be real to you, you must feel it somewhere in your body. Some people experience the 'lack feeling' in their solar plexus. Other people experience it around the heart area and still others feel it in their head.  Where the lack feeling shows up in the body is a bit different for everyone.  

Once you know where you experience the lack feeling in your body TAKE YOUR FOCUS OFF IT... and find the place in your body that feels peaceful and calm. That place is where the abundance feeling lives in your body... And the more you focus on the abundance feeling in that part of your body, the more it will increase in size and intensity...  

Practice a little each day coming from the abundance feeling inside of you and before you know you will be attracting abundance from sources unexpected, unexpectedly...  You will begin attracting all the love, health and money you want in ways that will, often time, defy all of your logical explanations. Making the transition from experiencing feelings lack and scarcity to experiencing feelings of abundance and prosperity on a regular basis takes practice but it is so worth it.. - Frederick Zappone

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Frederick, your writings inspire me.  Here is a donation in support of your inspirational writings coming from the abundance I feel inside inside of me




Feeling GOOD Insight #134, Monday February, 25, 2019

Feeling good will naturally attract good things into your life from sources unexpected, unexpectedly. Feeling bad ALERTS you that you are resisting (stopping) good things from showing up in your life. Allow the things you do not like to harmlessly pass you by like clouds in the sky. If you do that, you will make room for good things to show up in your life with no effort at all. - Frederick Zappone

Sunday

Feeling GOOD Insight #135, Sunday, February, 24, 2019

Feeling good (peaceful and content) ALERTS you that you are coming from the space of abundance inside of you and allowing good things to happen in your life in very unexpected and natural ways.

 

Saturday

Your 'INNER BULLY' Will Hurt You Emotionally and Physically Until You Face It Head On And Stand Up To It.

Your 'inner bully' is the critical and judgmental part of you that beats you up and makes you wrong for whatever it is you want to think about or do. It's job is to stop you from being you. It wants to be the boss of you.  

Your 'inner bully' represents the collective voices of all the people who were the boss of you during your growing up years.  It gets your attention and controls you by hurting your emotionally and physically.  It is the source of disease in your life. It also has the power to prevent you from healing yourself of even the most serious of illnesses. For those reasons it is important to face your 'inner bully' head on and stand up to it. If you don't, it will taunt and torment you for the rest of your life.

Many self-help teachings insist that you must focus on the positive to make positive things happen in your life. And while that is true to a point, if you have an highly abusive 'inner bully' in your face, day in and day out, it will be practically impossible to focus on anything positive for a sustained period of time before your 'inner bully' wears you down.  

Your 'inner bully' like all bullies wants your attention and until you pay attention to your inner bully it will cause you nothing but pain, conflict, misery and confusion. However once you pay attention to your 'inner bully' and face it head on, it will lose all power to harm you in any way,

Your 'inner bully' represents all of those parts of yourself that you have rejected because you have falsely believed that parts of you were bad, flawed or defective in some way.  

Your 'inner bully' represents a very hurt and abused little child that you need to love and embrace with all of your heart. Once your embrace your 'inner bully' (a.k.a. the dark side of your personality), you will be able to live in peace and harmony with it. Once you're able to do that, it will no longer be nipping at your heals begging for your attention and causing you all kinds of unnecessary pain and suffering. 

Frederick Zappone

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Friday

Do you know that you have an 'Inner Bully' that masquerades itself as you? The purpose of this bully is to make you feel bad about being you.

We all have an 'inner bully' that masquerades itself as us. 

Some peoples bully's are severely abusive while other peoples bully's are mildly abusive. Your 'inner bully' gets it power to abuse you by masquerading itself as you. As long a you think it is you criticizing yourself or beating yourself up it will be impossible for you to end your inner bully's reign of terror over you. 

Anything negative your inner voice feeds back to you is the work of your 'inner bully.' It feeds you negative stuff in its attempt to control your thinking and/or behavior and make you feel bad about being you. Don't let your inner bully stop you from being you.

This related article shows you how to become the OBSERVER of your mind so you will quit allowing your 'inner bully' to have power over you.

How To STOP Your MIND from Making You A Victim


Thursday

Attracting money in abundance is EASY to do. If it is not for you, then you need to read this short article.

To attract money in abundance, you must trust the idea of you having money in abundance. Without fully trusting the idea, it will be impossible for you to attract it. In addition, your mind will BLOCK the inspired ideas the 'God of your understanding' is sending to you about the many different ways you can easily create financial abundance for yourself.

Money is Paper and You Are The POWER that gives money its power.. - Frederick Zappone

Related Article: 

People who LOVE Themselves NEVER Have A Money Problem




Wednesday

If You Don't Ask The Right Questions, You Will Never Find The Right Answers For You.


When you come from a place of abundance inside of you (mentally and emotionally), abundance has no choice but to be attracted to you. Additionally, your subconscious mind will provide you with the many different ways you can create the money you want with no effort at all.  

On the other hand, when you comes from a lack mentality, your mind lacks the ability to supply you with an abundance of money-making ideas that would solve your money problems for you.

WHAT FOLLOWS IS IMPORTANT - REMEMBER THIS

STRUGGLE (or effort of any kind) always ALERTS you that you are coming from a lack mentality. The only thing a lack mentality can attract to you is lack. In this case, a lack or scarcity of money.

Acting on thoughts that cause you to experience struggle or effort in your life creates lack in your life. It can be no other way.


Nothing financially will change in your life until you start coming from a place of abundance inside of you and stop coming from that place of struggle inside you otherwise known as your place of lack.

For more ‘straight talk’ about abundance and prosperity visit:

frederickzappone.com
 
 

People who LOVE Themselves Sufficiently NEVER Have A Money Problem (Explained)

People who love themselves sufficiently never have a money problem because they have learned how to exchange their lack mentality for an abundance mentality  

When you come from a place of abundance inside of you (mentally and emotionally), abundance has no choice but to be attracted to you. Additionally, your subconscious mind will provide you with the many different ways you can create the money you want with no effort at all.  

On the other hand, when you comes from a lack mentality, your mind lacks the ability to supply you with an abundance of money-making ideas that would solve your money problems for you.

WHAT FOLLOWS IS IMPORTANT - REMEMBER THIS

STRUGGLE (or effort of any kind) always ALERTS you that you are coming from a lack mentality. The only thing a lack mentality can attract to you is lack. In this case, a lack or scarcity of money.

Acting on thoughts that cause you to experience struggle or effort in your life creates lack in your life. It can be no other way.


Nothing financially will change in your life until you start coming from a place of abundance inside of you and stop coming from that place of struggle inside you otherwise known as your place of lack.

For more ‘straight talk’ about abundance and prosperity visit:

frederickzappone.com




Tuesday

Be a GIVER of Happiness To Others and Happiness Will Come Back To You Multiplied


Tuesday Morning 'Blessings' To You - February 19, 2019

To bless something means to invoke the divine favor of the God of your understanding. Today may you be blessed with all the peace, health, love, and prosperity you can handle.. 

The blessings you silently send out to others come back to you multiplied. Spend the day blessing everyone and everything, especially yourself, and see what an amazing difference that makes in your life.

Frederick Zappone

 

Monday

A Noteworthy INSIGHT on Making Self-Love EASY for you... (Why Self-Love is HARD for so many people)

Self-love is really hard for people who don't understand what it means to actually love themselves.  To truly love yourself means to accept yourself EXACTLY as you are with all of your strengths and weaknesses.

Self-love is not about striving to be perfect. Striving to be perfect is not self-love at all, it is self-abuse. Acceptance of yourself exactly as you are takes the pressure off of loving yourself. 

Once the pressure is off, you can forget about focusing on loving yourself. Instead you can focus on thinking thoughts and taking those actions that make you feel good to be you. The more you think thoughts and take actions that inspire and empower you in some way, the more you are extending kindness, respect and love to yourself. 

Self-Love feels good, self-abuse does not. That's how you can tell whether you are loving yourself or abusing yourself. 

Never feel guilty if you catch yourself abusing yourself. Instead use it as an ALERT SIGNAL to shift your focus to thinking thoughts and taking actions that make you feel good to be you.

Frederick


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Eleven (11) Ways To Be KIND To Yourself. -- (How To Be KIND To Yourself Through The HARD Times.)

If criticizing or beating yourself up through the hard times made things better for you I would support you in doing that but it doesn't.  All beating yourself does for you is that it makes the hard times, harder.

The reason you beat yourself up is because that's what the 'authority figures' in your life did to you during your growing up years. They did this in an attempt to get the best out of you. This  may work for a little while but in the long run, it does not. In the long run, beating people up turns them into people who beat people up.

You cannot be kind and respectful of other people if you are not kind and respectful towards yourself first. To make this world a better place for all of us, each of us has to learn how to be kind to ourselves no matter our circumstances. Be kind to ourselves under difficult circumstances is the greatest kindness we can do for ourselves.

HOW TO BE KIND TO YOURSELF

Be kind to yourself by asking yourself what you can do right now that will make you feel better about being you.  Anything you can do that makes you feel good to be you is extending kindness to yourself.

ELEVEN (11) WAYS TO BE KIND TO YOURSELF 

1. Check your mental diet. Are you taking in more good news than bad.

2. Eat foods that comfort and energize you.

3. Hug as many people as you can as often as you can. And if hugging people is too scary for you, hug a tree. Seriously, hug a tree for thirty seconds and you will definitely feel it hug you back. 

4. Move the body in ways that feel good to you. Walking, exercise, stretching, whatever feels like fun to you... FUN is the keyword.

5. Listen to music that softens your mood and warms you emotionally.

6. Take a long, hot  shower and enjoy feeling how the hot water loves washing over your body, wave after luxurious  wave.

7. Get yourself a big teddy bear or comfort blanket.  Watch shows from your childhood that made you feel good to be you.

8. Watch little kids and old people being kind to one another.

9.  Lay on the ground and watch the clouds form different shapes.

10. Get yourself a pet even if it is just a gold fish in a bowl. 

11.  Being kind to yourself includes asking for what you want and keep asking for it until you get it. The reason most people don't get what they want is they don't ask often enough. Take a lesson from children. When a child wants something it is not afraid to ask until it gets what it wants. Ask and you shall receive, ask not and you shall receive not.

Frederick Zappone

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Sunday

3 Things People Do Who DON'T Love Themselves

The THIRD thing people do who don't love themselves very much is they focus  more on looking good than feeling good. If they have to choose between looking good versus feeling good, they will choose looking good almost every single time.

The  SECOND thing people do who don't love themselves very much is they don't ask questions until they get answers that work for them, answers that would make it easy for them to love themselves.

The FIRST thing people do who don't love themselves very much is they don't speak up. They would sooner depress themselves rather than risk making a fool of themselves by fully expressing themselves (their truth).


Frederick Zappone

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Five (5) Ways to DEFEAT Thoughts of Discouragement

We can use FEELING DISCOURAGED as a reason to depress ourselves OR we can use it as an ALERT SIGNAL to inspire us. I choose inspiration over discouragement every single time. And when I fail to do so, I FORGIVE myself and choose again 
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Thoughts CAUSE feelings. Knowing that I choose thoughts that inspire me and dismiss all thoughts that can defeat or discourage me.
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Feeling Negative is an ALERT SIGNAL to take any immediate positive action that moves me back into my 'natural' feeling good state of mind.
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The QUICKEST way out of feeling discouraged or depressed is to take ACTION. Why?  Because ACTION changes thoughts a hundred times faster than thinking does. Here is something important to know: Discouragement and depression don't want you to take action because if you do, you will break the hypnotic trance they placed on you.
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Nothing can discourage or defeat you except your very own thoughts OR your thoughts about other people's thoughts, still your thoughts.

Frederick Zappone
 
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Friday

Ten (10) Things People DO Who Don't Love Themselves.

1. They don't take 100% responsibility for their lives.

2. They blame everyone for their troubles except themselves.

3. They seek people who agree with them about how awful it is.

4. They don't ask questions on how to love themselves until they get the answers that work for them.

5. They are argumentative, angry and defensive as a way to avoid taking the time to discover the bests way to love themselves.

6. They have unrealistic expectations on how fast they should be able love themselves.

7. They are unkind to themselves and lose patience with themselves rather quickly.

8. Their need to be right is more important to them than taking the time to learn how to love themselves.

9. They are very ungrateful and pushy people.

10. They get their way by force and intimidation

Related Reading:


Kindness is GOOD for your HEALTH

People won't openly admit it but what they want from other people besides being appreciated is for people to be KIND to them. Kindness more than any other quality nourishes the body, mind and soul of a person. It makes their 'immune system' stronger. Kindness makes people feel connected to one another. Kindness opens a person up and makes them more trusting of others. And when it come to looking for a spouse or partner, the #1 quality they look for is a person who is kind.

Frederick Zappone




Don't RESIST the Negative things you feel UNLESS you want those feelings to PERSIST.

We automatic resist negative feelings because we were taught to believe those kind of feelings were bad to feel. The problem is when we resist unwanted feelings they persists.  Some people are so skilled at resisting unwanted feelings that they feel them for a lifetime when feeling negative feelings for a lifetime is not necessary at all.

Frederick Zappone

Related Reading:


 

Ten (10) Things You Can't Do With A Narcissist

1. Have friends
2. Enjoy intimacy
3. Have peace of mind
4. Share dreams
5. Find encouragement
6. Hear truth
7. Reach Your True Potential
8. Feel security.
9. Laugh at mistakes
10. Be comforted


Wednesday

The ENORMOUS Price You Pay By JUMPING to Conclusions

The moment you jump to a conclusion you shut the door of your mind to other insights, answers or solutions to your problem. Jumping to conclusion CLOSES the mind. Once closed, it is impossible for the Universe to give you other answers, better answers that will make solving what's troubling you easy to do.  An open mind solves problems easily, even difficult ones. A stressed out mind delays problems being solved. A closed mind prevents problems from being solved altogether. 


FOCUS IS EVERYTHING: Whatever you FOCUS your Attention On, You Attract More Of The Same

The Joy of Be-ing DIFFERENT

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Getting Rid Of The 'FEELING LIKE A FAILURE' Feeling

It is important to get rid of the 'feeling like a failure' feeling as soon as possible. Why? Because that feeling will trigger a hundred negative thoughts along with the negative feelings associated with those thoughts that will depress you and make you feel discouraged and defeated. That feeling will make you feel like a loser when you are not. When people allow that  feeling to persist it even ends up making them feel suicidal. 

THIS IS IMPORTANT TO KNOW

Feeling like a failure does not mean you are a failure. It is only a feeling that will change when your thoughts change. Use that feeling as an ALERT SIGNAL to shift your focus to thoughts that make you feel good to be you and you will end up feeling like the 'winner' you truly are.

Frederick Zappone

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Tuesday

If you are STRUGGLING to love yourself, you are not loving yourself, you are ABUSING yourself. READ MORE

The funny thing about self-love is that it is not about doing, it is about ALLOWING yourself to feel the love that already exists all around you. I am not necessarily talking about love coming from other people, although it, often times, does come from other people too.

Love is surrounding you this very moment. The problem is if you don't feel the love, then love is not real to you. It is your struggling to experience love that is stopping you from feeling love, right now.

THE PURPOSE OF STRUGGLE

Struggle is an ALERT SIGNAL that is letting you know that you are thinking the wrong thoughts and/or taking the wrong actions for you.  

Thinking the wrong thoughts and/or taking the wrong actions causes people to struggle. When we are thinking the right thoughts and taking the right actions for us we always feel good about ourselves.  

Any time we attempt to live our lives in opposition to (or against) our own truth, we will experience struggle.

For people to feel the love that already exist all around them they have to train themselves to stop thinking those thoughts and/or taking those actions that make them feel abused or used in any way.   

Self-love is not about learning new stuff as much as it is about 'letting go' of all the thoughts and actions that make you feel bad about yourself in any way.  It takes practice to get into the NEW habit of letting go of everything that makes you feel bad but it is worth it. It's worth it because when you LET GO of thoughts and actions that makes us feel bad about yourself, you will naturally, without any effort at all, feel good about yourself. You will feel very good about yourself.


Frederick

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The Best GOOD thing is not to RESIST Your BAD things

When I quit making myself wrong for smoking I unexpectedly lost all desire to smoke.   

When I quit making myself wrong for being impatient, my impatience went away.  

When I quit making myself wrong for being lonely, I quit being lonely.  

When I quit making myself wrong for being angry, I became peaceful.

When I quit making myself wrong for not knowing how to love myself, learning how to love myself became easy for me to do.

When I quit making myself wrong for being overweight I lost fifty-five pound without dieting or depriving myself in any way.

Society has programmed us to strongly believe that 'BAD THINGS'  are bad for us. Society did such a good job on us that that we RESIST the heck out of our bad habits with so much power and might that our bad habits persists in our life no matter what we do.

However, when we embrace* our 'bad habits' and stop making ourselves wrong for having them, they begin losing their grip on us. 

Once we accept our bad habits, many times, they disappear from our life like magic. Why does that happen?  It happens because when we embrace what we fear, along with our fear disappearing so do the things that made us feel fearful in the first place.

* Embrace means to accept something willingly.  

Frederick Zappone


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Taming the 'Pity POOR Me' Part of Our Mind

We all have a 'pity poor me' part to our mind.  The way you tame it is not by resisting it but by embracing* it like you would embrace a small child who just scraped his knee.  Resisting the 'pity poor me' part of our mind makes it stronger and makes it persist longer.

*Embraces means to accept something willingly. 

When you catch yourself in the 'pity poor me' frame of mind, go with it. Write down what the pitiful part of you is saying to the grown up part of you.  Shower it with compassion, understanding and love the same way you shower a small child when they have been wounded in some way. And just like a small child who has been cared for, you will find yourself naturally easing back into that feeling good state of mind again. 🌝

Frederick Zappone

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How To STOP Your MIND from Making You A Victim



How To STOP Your MIND from Making You A Victim

If you want to become the master of your mind, you must first become the skillful OBSERVER of it.  This takes practice but it is so worth it.

Being the OBSERVER of your mind is the ability to step back from thinking about the 'thoughts' running through your mind to simply OBSERVING them. You observe the thoughts running through your mind the same way you observe children at play in the park. You sit quietly somewhere as a spectator and watch your thoughts float into your mind and then back out again.  

Watching the positive thoughts is easy to do. It is not so easy to watch the negative thoughts because your fearful 'reflex reaction' to them is to run away from them rather than OBSERVE them.

The trouble with trying to run from your negative thoughts is that you can't.  They will hunt you down with the ferociousness and appetite of a hungry lion until you pay attention to them by OBSERVING them.

THE WORST INJUSTICE SOCIETY EVER DID TO YOU WAS TO MAKE YOU AFRAID OF YOUR OWN THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS

Negative thoughts and feelings have no power over you at all. They have  ZERO power over you except for the power you give them.  

When you are thinking about the negative thoughts running through your mind that is when you are an active participant with your mind rather than an independent OBSERVER of it. It is during those times that you unwittingly (thoughtlessly) give negative thoughts power over you. 

The negative thoughts your mind serves up to you, without your conscious permission, are both powerful and convincing because they are thoughts living in your subconscious mind outside your immediate conscious control. Negative thoughts living in the subconscious mind  will always be stronger and more powerful than the positive thoughts in your conscious mind until you STOP agreeing with them.

Thoughts living in your subconscious mind have lived there a lot longer than the positive thoughts living in your conscious mind. Some of your negative thoughts  have been living in your subconscious mind for years. Those thoughts  remain in your subconscious mind because you give them power over you by agreeing with them. For a negative thought to make you feel bad, you have to agree with it. It is not possible for a negative thought to make you feel bad once you quit agreeing with it.

Negative thoughts are LIES about yourself that you have accepted, down through the years, as the truth about you.

BAD NEWS, GOOD NEWS

First the bad news, any time you agree with a negative thought you give that thought power over you.  Now for the good news. 

As the OBSERVER of your negative thoughts you are no longer giving them power over you. Instead your are allowing those thoughts to come up into the LIGHT of your conscious mind where they will dissolve naturally if you allow them to harmlessly pass you by like clouds in the sky. This takes practice, lots of it, but it is worth it because this practice will make you the master of your mind rather than continuing to go through  life being victimized by it. - Frederick Zappone

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What do you do when you feel lower than a snake's belly and all of your mental tricks to getting yourself back into that feeling good state of mind again FAIL YOU?  The first thing you do is you don't resist it.  

Your resistance to your mind driving you crazy gives the negativity your mind is dishing out to you more power over you..  

It is only our resistance to the negative stuff  going off in our heads that gives it the power to consume us and turn us into anxiety-ridden, insecure, suicidal, scared little kids.  Feeling that way is not the problem, our resistance to feeling that way is.

MY STORY

Right now for reasons I do not fully understand my mind is dishing out 'negative trash' to me left and right.  I can't stop it and I cannot reason with it. Any attempt to do so makes it louder and stronger.

However when I embrace* those negative thoughts, no matter how petrifying and scary they may be, they loosen their grip on me.  

* Embrace means to accept something willingly. 

To embrace unwanted thoughts take a step back and become the non-judgmental OBSERVER of them... Observe your thoughts like you would observe the action taking place on your TV screen. 

In my case as the OBSERVER of my own thoughts I see drama unfolding, not in my life, but between my ears.

The Mental DRAMA unfolding between my ears.

My greatest physical weakness has always been my teeth. Every other part of my body I have been able to 'process and heal' on my own but my teeth are a different story. This is a result of being severely traumatized by dentists during my childhood.  

FEAR TRIGGERS FEAR  

I have something going on with one of my teeth that holds the 'bridge' in my mouth in place. I fear losing it because if I lose it that means I will need dental implants. The thought of needing dental implants brings up my fear of not having enough money to pay for them. 

That fear triggers my fear of not knowing how to generate money from my writings to meet an unexpected financial obligation. That fear triggers my fear of going into debt which then triggers my fear of going around with no upper teeth if I don't go into debt.  That fear is then followed up with the fear of people seeing me without teeth. That fear  triggers the shame I will feel for not having teeth or the money to pay for them. 

The problem with 'fear triggering fear' is after a while your fears begin to overwhelm you. This makes you feel like you're going to die if you don't immediately solve the problem that triggered fear in you in the first place.

MY CHOICES IS DEALING WITH OVERWHELMING FEAR

At this point I have two choices in regards to successfully dealing with my feelings of fear. I can either get caught up in the mental drama that is playing itself out in my head or I can become the OBSERVER of it and pretend I am watching a scary movie of my own creation. As the 'observer' of my mind's drama, I feel inspired and empowered to become bigger it. However if I keep myself embedded in my thoughts, I will end up feeling discouraged and defeated and become the victim of it.

Frederick Zappone

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Saturday

Arguing is not Necessary. Why you ARGUE and Why You Shouldn't - The Reason you Argue and the Cure for it.

Arguing is not discussing. Arguing is having a 'reactive or thoughtless' conversation for the purposes of making yourself right at the expense of making the other person wrong.  More than that, you argue because another person's point of view made you feel, in some way, insecure about your own point of view. If you were truly secure in what you believed, you would never have a reason to argue with another. 

The way to end arguing with others is to understand that there point of view (on any subject) that contradicts your point of you is their truth.  

Keep in mind another person's truth is just as valid to them as your truth is valid to you. That being the case you might then ask, who is right and who is wrong?  Based on what each of them knew at the time, they are both right. More importantly when we invalidate another person's truth we are showing great disrespect towards them and when people feel disrespected (and not heard by us) their upset escalates. 

A continuation of not respecting or not hearing a another person's truth never ends up taking us to any place good. 

When people say to me THAT'S NOT TRUE in response to something I said to them, this is my response back to them. 

I understand what I said is not true for you. That being said, based on my own life experience, it is true for me.

The ability to 'agree to disagree' without offending another person takes practice but it is so worth it if you want to  keep that person in your life.  On the other hand, if there is someone that you don't want to keep in your life, argue with them frequently and guaranteed they will do you the favor of leaving your life rather quickly. 🌝


Frederick Zappone



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The ULTIMATE WAY to Deal With What You Don't Like

The 'ultimate way' to deal with what you don't like is to surrender to it.  I am not talking about surrender as in defeat. I am talking about surrender as in 'GIVING UP,' or the letting go of anything you don't like. That includes letting go of pain in the body, unwanted thoughts and feelings along with people who make life miserable for you.  

Resistance makes unwanted things persist in our lives. Surrender eliminates resistance from our life which then ALLOWS those things we don't like the freedom to leave our life.

As long as you are thinking about or focusing on something you don't like in your life, it will persist. Surrender or the releasing of it will make whatever it is you don't want in your life to go POOF like magic. 

Surrendering to unwanted things is the EASIEST thing in the world to do but the ego (otherwise known as the fearful part of you) will resist surrendering with all of its might. Why? Because if you  embrace what you fear, your ego (that is motivated by fear) will cease to exist. In place of your ego, you will experience a  peaceful state of mind and the POWER to fully be yourself with all people and in all situations.

Frederick Zappone

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