Unconditionally love is the only kind of love worth of having. You cannot give unconditional love to another until you first give it to yourself. To love yourself unconditionally stop criticizing yourself in any way and forgive yourself for the mistakes you make along the way.
Accepting 'what is' sets you FREE to create what will be. People complaining about 'what is' doesn't change what is because it has already been created and exists. Your resistance to 'what is' makes what you don't like or don't want persist. You only path to freedom and change is accepting 'what is' and moving on.
Your feelings represent your beliefs in emotional form. They immediately tell you what you are attracting. Feelings are the first physical evidence that something (good or bad) is coming true for you. If you don't like what's coming true for you, change your thoughts. Changing your thoughts will change your feelings which will change your results.