Expectations Have ZERO value except to cause UPSET

Have expectations of yourself and others will cause you an awful lot of unnecessary frustration, disappointment, suffering and upsets. We weren't born having expectations. We are programmed to have them in order that we can constantly be disenchanted with what the present moment offers us. Expectations speak loudly that we are not grateful for or appreciate what we have in the 'here and npw.'  Wanting more is fine but expecting more is what causes us to suffer.  

I want more of everything. 

I want more love, more money, more energy, more friends, more travel and more fun in my life but I don't have any expectations as to when I will get more of those things. In the meantime instead of having expectations about what the future will bring my way, I do what makes me happy, in the present moment, like writing this blog. When I do what makes me happy, in the 'here and now,' no expectations are necessary.

If you have questions about expectations post them in comment section and I will answer them for you. 

Frederick 

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Why People No Longer Disappoint me.

People never disappoint me because I am very clear no one owes me a thing.  The great thing about never having any expectations of people is that people are free to delightfully surprise you when you least expect it.

Expectations of people have ZERO value except to cause upset. Every time you find yourself upset with someone it is because you had an expectation of them that went unfulfilled. 

The purpose of upsets with people is  an ALERT  signal that you have an expectation of them. At that point you can do one of two things. You can let your upset pass you by and move on or you can have a conversation with the person about meeting your expectations. 

If you do have a conversation with a person about your expectations of them understand that no one owes you a thing. If they choose not to fulfill your expectations don't get upset with them. Instead find another way to have your needs met without harming the person who disappointed you in any way.

Releasing RESENTMENT Through Honest Self-Talk

Any negative feeling we cannot talk about, any feeling we believe we
cannot experience increases in strength and power over us until we learn to love
it to death. Excerpted from  LOVING Hatred to Death ENDS Hatred (Article)

HERE IS EXAMPLE OF MY OWN HONEST SELF-TALK

I have been writing this blog full time for seven years..  I am now approaching 400,000 pageviews which means thousands of people have visited my blog and read many of my original inspirational articles.  In spite of my best writing efforts, in spite of giving people my very best, the number of people who have left comments or made a small donation in support of the time and energy it takes to write my articles and make them available to people, free of charge, has been next to nothing. 

The last donation I received was a $5.00 donation. I received that donation over two months ago. You would think with close to 1,000 pageviews a day, I would get at least one kind comment or one small donation a day but that rarely happens.

What has happened because my inspirational writings have gone largely unappreciated is that without being fully conscious about it I have developed tremendous resentment toward people who read my articles and give me nothing back in return.   It is not their fault, it is my fault.  It is my fault believing that if I gave people my best efforts, free of charge, my efforts would be rewarded by people who were grateful for the insights and wisdom I freely share with them. The reason I am publicly apologizing for my resentment is not so much for your benefit as it is for mine.

I want to be able to continue to write and post inspirational articles on this blog but I DO NOT, I repeat, I DO NOT want to continue to feel resentful because I attract people who either cannot afford to support my writings with a small donation or who do not appreciate the time and effort it takes to freely give away to others  the wisdom I've learned that has made life easier for me.  

I certainly do not want to continue to feel resentful towards the ungrateful people I attract to my blog because feeling resentment does not feel good to me and goes against the work I am currently doing with myself which is to love myself unconditionally, no matter what.

As hurtful as it has been to not receive the appreciation and donations I expected to receive, I learned a HUGE, HUGE lesson and it is this:

EXPECTATIONS HAVE ZERO VALUE EXCEPT TO CAUSE UPSET...

 

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Expecting something, don't... Here is why

I have been on this planet a few years and I can tell you from personal experience and the personal experiences of  thousands of others, expectations have zero value except to cause you upset. Expectations are from hell. 

They are designed by the devil himself to stress you out, make you lose your patience and become frustrated when your expectations aren't being met when you think they should be met.  Worse yet, expectations stop you from taking inspired action to make sure what you want to happen will happen..


Winners and champions do not have expectations.   Instead they have confidence, in themselves, they will succeed at what they do and most of the times they do therefore they have no reason for expectations. Expectations set you up to be hurt and disappointed time and time again until you see expectations have no value in your life except to depress you and make you feel powerless and ineffective as a human being.

“If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never be disappointed.” ― Sylvia Plath

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” ― Donald Miller

“When you stop expecting perfection from yourself, you will no longer expect it from others.” - Unknown

“Expectations give you false hope and set you up for failure.”  -  Elvis Presley

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I Gave Up All Of My EXPECTATIONS: Here's why

Expectations Have ZERO value except to cause upset.  

I have given up all expectations because when I am expecting something, I am not living in the moment. And when I am not living in the moment, I cannot access my authentic power. And when I cannot access my authentic power, I am unhappy.  And I am unhappy because I feel powerless and ineffective. And I feel powerless and ineffective because I am trying to control something that is not in my life yet, the future. However, when I live in the moment, the thoughts and actions I take in the 'here and now' create my future for me. That's why I live without expectations.

I'm lazy...so I let the Universe Do it For me...
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Expectations

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“Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting a bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian” - Dennis Wholey -

UR Expectations are Killing U, Here's Y!

A Lesson About Expectations

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Expect nothing from the Universe and Universe will give you everything you want. Have you ever noticed that when people love and accept you as you are, without expectations,  that it creates a desire in your heart to give them everything they want that is within your power to give them?  That is the way Universe feels about us. When we love and accept the Universe (aka God) the way it is, the Universe wants to give us everything we want.  How great is that! :)

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