How I Defeated My HORRENDOUS Self-Doubts

To learn how I defeated my own horrendous self-doubts and how you can defeat yours, read: The Secrets to Uninstalling Self-Doubt

The CURE for Self-Doubt

Self-doubt undermines self-worth. 
Self-doubt causes you to hate yourself.
Self-doubt makes you feel guilty
Self-doubt stops you from being you.
Self-doubt fucks everything. 

THE CURE

If you leave your doubts alone, they will leave you alone. If you mess with your doubts, they will mess you up real good.

If you have questions about becoming the master of your doubts rather than continuing to be a victim of them, post your questions in the comment section of this post and I will answer them for you.

Frederick Zappone

The Mental Illness Called Self-Doubt (The CURE)

There are a lot of conditions defined as mental illness but the worst of these is SELF DOUBT...  It is absolutely the worst. Doubt slays our best thoughts. Doubt splits our mind in two and puts us into conflict with ourselves and then with others..

If  doubt is not resolved quickly, it leads to all kinds of undesirable behavior such as becoming obsessive or compulsive, manic or depressed or developing an ADD type personality or becoming addicted to foods, booze or pills as a way to squash the pain caused by doubt.

If there is such a thing as a devil, his real name is Doubt.

THE CURE:

If you leave your doubts alone, they will leave you alone. However caution and vigiliance is called for here.  Doubt is the great tempter and it will do whatever it can to make you doubt yourself, your mental health or your decisions. If your doubts aren't throwing you into conflict with yourself, causing you unnecessary pain and suffering, the doubts of others will.


If you don't believe doubt is your worst enemy and the root cause of mental illness, watch how many times your doubts betray you....

 When in Doubt, DON'T....

The Traitor Lives Witin you. It's name is Self-Doubt

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The only real troublemaker you will ever have in your life is self- doubt.   Let me explain: 

You do or say something, then after the fact you have doubts about whatever you said or did....and then you try to correct what you said or did and instead of you having less doubts, you have more... And instead of things getting better for you, they get worse.  

Nothing robs self-esteem faster than doubt.  Doubt will slay your best thoughts. Doubt will destroy your faith in God. Doubt will depress you, make you feel hopeless, powerless and put you into a state of despair. Doubt will discourage you, make you quit. Doubt will make you give up on yourself. In worst case situations, doubt will make you feel suicidal.  

Doubts gain power over you when you resist them, believe in them or wrestle with them. If you mess with your doubts, they will bury you.  However, if you leave your doubts alone, they will leave you alone.

Got Problems? Lighten Up, Let Go, PLAY...

So many people with so many problems.......

They have relationship problems, money problems, love problems, health problems. In 99% of the cases, that 'thing' that's trying to figure out the answer or solution to their problems is FEAR.

And the more they come from fear while trying to solve their problem, the worse their fears get and the worse their problem becomes. You see there is a LAW, a very simple law  and it goes like this:  

Whatever you FOCUS your attention on, you attract more of the same.

If you focus on thoughts or feelings that make you feel bad, you attract more of the same kind of thoughts and feelings. The reason for this is because your FOCUS is on what make you feel bad rather than what makes you feel good, what makes you feel most ALIVE.

Feelings are your first physical evidence that something (good or bad) is coming true for you? Don't like what's coming true for you, change your thoughts. The moment you do, your feelings begin changing too. 

If you have a  problem of any kind and you have done everything you know to do to make it disappear from your life and still the problem persists, DO NOTHING. Let me explain.

Putting time and energy into a problem you cannot solve allows it to grow in strength and power over you until you are completely powerless to do anything about the problem.

Often times, with a chronic problem, you are resisting it and fighting with it which makes it persist rather than disappear from your life.  After you have done everything you know to do to make a chronic problem disappear from your life, if you do nothing, one of the following three things will happen to the problem.  

NUMBER 1. the problem will simply disappear from your life for no logical reason you can explain. One day you have the problem and the next day you're aware the problem is no longer in your life. 

NUMBER 2. In doing nothing to solve your problem, the mind relaxes and when you least expect it, the answer to your problem spontaneously appear in your mind, seemingly out of thin air. And when the answer does appear, even before you apply the answer, you will know with absolutely certainty the answer will solve the problem for you.  (This happens to me a lot.) 

NUMBER 3. During the time you are doing nothing to solve your problem, when you least expect it, a person, an article, a book, a workshop, event or situation will show up in your life that contains the answer to your problem.  When that happens, you will intuitively know without a shadow of a doubt that the answer you unexpectedly received is the right answer for you.

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Doubts

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Paying attention to your doubts slays your best thoughts, your most inspired thoughts, and slows you down from creating the life you want. Doubts are nothing more than 'mind temptations' trying to stop you from achieving the goals in life that are most important to you. If you leave your doubts alone, they will leave you alone.  
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Indecision

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Continually changing your mind about what you want or continually have doubts about what you want neutralizes the power of the law of attraction working in your favor. The law of attraction only acts on your behalf when you are decisive about what you want. Indecision stops the law of attraction from working on your behalf.
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Self-Sabotage

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The more you focus on your doubts the more doubts you attract to yourself and the larger your doubts grow until you have no self-confidence left at all. This is one example of how the law of attraction works against people rather than for them.

Doubts

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Doubts paid attention to will slay your most inspired thoughts
and discourage you from doing what felt good for you to do
when those inspired thoughts first showed up in your mind.

The Most Deadly SIN..

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Second guessing yourself is the most deadly sin. It will undermine your self-confidence and self-esteem faster than shooting yourself up with cocaine. We 'second guess or doubt ourselves' when we think our best isn't good enough.

YOUR BEST IS ALWAYS GOOD ENOUGH

It is important to understand that your best is ALWAYS good enough. Why do I say that? Because in the moment when you did what you did if you could have done better, you would have. We always do our best, in the moment. Beating yourself up for the lessons you are learning as you move through life doing your best, one moment of time, is a very destructive way of thinking and acting that will only cause you to beat yourself up over and over again..

Once you do what you do, let it remain in the past where it belongs. In the moment, your best is always good enough. And in future moments of time, your best will become a new best for you. Regret or guilt over something you did in the past, even if it is only one second in your past, is the road to a hell of your own making... On other other hand, giving up the most deadly sin of 'second guessing' yourself by accepting what happened and moving on, frees you up to create what will be...

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