"Trying too hard is un-attractive (does not attract) and pushes away from us the very things we want."
I can not emphasis enough that "trying too hard" is the only thing between people and what they want. If folks had confidence that God wanted for them what they wanted for themselves, they would experience miracles, literally miracles, every single day of their lives.
God is not a cruel and unfeeling God. He would not plant a desire in your heart to want something and then not make it possible for what you want to come into your life.
Would you promise your own child or a friend something and then not give it to them? I think not. Then why would you think for one moment that God (HP) won't guide you to or bring into your life what you want?
Trying too hard blocks what you want from coming into your life while ALLOWING what you want makes it possible for what you want to show up, in your life, with effortless ease.
If you "knew" that what you wanted was coming into your life, how happy would you be right now? Be that happy and what you want will show up in your life magically.