Kidding ourselves,

Lying to ourselves, pretending to be something we are not is toxic poison to our soul. That's why the soul allows us to suffer, not to punish us but to wake us up to the fact that we are not being ourselves. Suffering was never meant as punishment, it's the consequences of being full of crap* and holding onto it rather than dumping it and setting ourselves free from a load of crap* that was never meant to be ours n the first place.
*Crap: Any information we received during our growing up years that causes us to suffer is crap.


Focusing on your failures is like focusing on a pimple on your nose, the more you focus your attention on it, the larger it gets until you just want to chop off your nose. People kill themselves not because they fail but because they focus on their failures instead of focusing on their successes.

Focusing on past failure hurts while focusing on future success feels good.


Who was the idiot who said 'you learn from your failures?' All you learn from your failures is how to fail, it is your successes that teach you how to succeed.
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1. What to do when NOTHING is working out for you.

2. The Secret of Champions

3. Being True To Ourselves


The only problem we have in life that causes us all of our other problems is not being ourselves. When we are being ourselves, life is easy and when we are not being ourselves, life is hard.
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When we are not being ourselves, we feel ill at ease with ourselves (dis-eased),
that's how we know when we are not being ourselves.
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If we don't feel free to be ourselves, we will only feel misery.
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Our motivation comes from either memory or inspiration...
The problem with memory is that it only allows us to repeat the
past whereas 'inspiration' allows to create the future brand new.
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Attitude isn't everything, it's the only thing

Everything in our lives, both the good and bad, comes to us through our attitudes. Right attitudes produce magic and miracles in our life and wrong Attitudes produce troubles and nightmares. There is always hope and a way from underneath depression and despair when we change our attitude.
According to our thoughts so shall it be for us and it always is. - Frederick Zappone, Author,The Pain-Body (Free Download)
Everything in life is created twice, first mentally, then physically - Greg Anderson,
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The AMAZING Job Interview

Has this ever happened to you? You go for a job interview. You become nervous and instead of being yourself, you try to be the person they want you to be for the position they have open.

Several years ago, I went for an interview and was about to play the old game of "pretending" to be the person they wanted me to be rather than being myself. I had done it many times before. This time I decided not to do it even though I was terrified that if they 'knew" who I really was they would never hire me.

You see, I am too straightforward and direct. I am irreverent and passionate. Sometimes I'm too loud and other times I talk too much. I have a outrageous sense of humor that many people do not understand. My personality is a bit over the top for many companies I know but this time I was going to be myself whether I got the job or not. This was hard to do because I desperately needed the job and I was down to my last three hundred bucks.

Nevertheless, when I met the CEO who was hiring for the position, the very first thing I told him is that I didn't do interviews well. His eyes glazed over and almost rolled to the back of his head. I knew what he was thinking but I knew what I was doing, I was being myself.....and after I gave him time to settle back down...I said to him:

"I don't do interviews well, you see, because I am employed all of the time and have very little time to practice playing dumb interview games."

He knew what I was talking about and roared with laughter and that set me free to show up as the full blown ME..... I spoke too loud and talked too much, I was straightforward and direct and I didn't back down from being me. I shared my strange sense of humor with him that made his eyes glaze over, once again, but you know what?

When all was said and done, as 1 of the 10 finalists for the position (with 9 more qualified than myself), I was the one he hired for the job.

The CEO told me later he hired me because he liked my style and my ability to be myself. He knew he could trust me more than most of the people, in his company, who were always kissing up to him. He found my honesty refreshing and sincere, something the other nine people never revealed to him.

It was a best job I ever had because I was hired into the job being myself and I was able to be myself every single day on that job. The best part is, I made more money on that job than any job that I had before when I was "pretending" to be something I was not!

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Yelling at her caused a MIRACLE!

A mother who fell into a coma after losing her baby son during a difficult labour came back from the brink of death after her husband gave her "a bloody good rollicking".

Yvonne Sullivan, 28, lost consciousness suffering from severe blood poisoning moments after being told that baby Clinton had died.

Despite grieving for their lost son, her husband Dominic, 37, kept a round-the-clock vigil at her bedside for two weeks as she lay in intensive care.

But when doctors told him they could have to switch off her life support machine, Mr Sullivan took drastic action - by giving his wife a firm telling-off.

He held his wife's hand and demanded: "You start fighting. Don't you dare give up on me now. I've had enough, stop mucking around and start breathing. Come back to me."

Two hours later she started to breathe steadily again.

Within five days doctors were able to switch off her ventilator, and she regained consciousness to see her husband standing beside her.

She even remembers hearing her husband yelling at her as she lay in a coma and says it gave her the strength to pull through.

She said: "I can't remember exactly what he said but I never liked getting told off by Dom. Something inside me just clicked and I began to fight again. When I came round I thought he'd been gone a few minutes, then he told me I'd been out for two weeks. It's a miracle. I owe him so much."

Mrs Sullivan, of Weston-super-Mare, Somerset, discovered she was pregnant shortly after her marriage in September 2006.

However, her baby was diagnosed as anaemic and had to undergo regular blood transfusions while still in the womb.

Mrs Sullivan went into labour two months early on July 5 last year and gave birth to Clinton at St Michael's Hospital in Bristol after a traumatic 14-hour labour. Clinton died after contracting a blood infection.

Doctors realised that Mrs Sullivan had blood poisoning and her body was going into septic shock, which makes all the vital organs shut down.

She was taken to Bristol Royal Infirmary where her condition worsened rapidly. Her last memory was her husband leaving her bedside to get a cup of coffee.

Mr Sullivan, a lorry driver, kept a vigil by her bed until doctors told him that his wife might not survive. He said: "I got angry. I grabbed her hand and began shouting at her 'start fighting, don't you dare give up on me'. I gave her a bloody good rollicking.

"I kept telling her to pull through. Then I left the room to get some air. I came back two hours later and she had started to breathe. It was incredible. Sometimes you find powers you just didn't know you had."

Dr Narendar Ramnani, a reader in cognitive neuroscience at Royal Holloway University of London, said the brain processes information when in a coma. He added: "It is entirely possible that her husband provided her with some stimulus which helped her to come back."

After leaving hospital Mrs Sullivan had to relearn how to perform basic tasks and struggled to put the kettle on or tie her shoe laces for weeks.

Now thanks to her husband's support and her determination, she has made a full recovery.

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Marriage Humor


At a cocktail party, one woman said to another,
"Aren't you wearing your wedding ring on the wrong
finger?" "Yes, I am. I married the wrong man."
Then there was a woman who said,
"I never knew what real happiness was until I got
married, and by then, it was too late."
If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict
attention to every word you say -- talk in
your sleep.
Just think, if it weren't for marriage, men would go
through life thinking they had no faults at all.
First guy says, "My wife's an angel!" Second
guy remarks, "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
"A Woman's Prayer:

Dear Lord, I pray for: Wisdom, to understand a man ,
to love and to forgive him , and for patience, For his
moods. Because Lord, if I pray for strength I'll just
beat him to death"

Husband and wife are waiting at the bus stop with
their nine children. A blind man joins them after a
few minutes. When the bus arrives, they find it
overloaded and only the wife and the nine kids are
able to fit onto the bus.

So the husband and the blind man decide to walk. After
a while, the husband gets irritated by the ticking of
the stick of the blind man as he taps it on the
sidewalk, and says to him, "Why don't you put a piece
of rubber at the end of your stick? That ticking sound
is driving me crazy."

The blind man replies, "If you had put a rubber at the
end of YOUR stick, we'd be riding the bus, so shut the
hell up."

Oh! Oh!

Things were a little slow for the Chef one day and
so he got a bit creative with his time.. :)

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Twisted Wisdom

It might be logical to hate (dislike) what you don't like but that doesn't mean it the right thing to do. The fact is when you hate (dislike) someone or some thing, you give that someone or some thing power over you. Hating your fat keeps you fat, hating your smoking habit keeps you smoking, hating a person keeps you super glued to them in your mind even if they are 10,000 miles away away from you. What's logical about that?

Great Quotes From the Peaceful RULER

Recently I discovered my name Frederick, in German, means Peaceful Ruler and while the only person I am a peaceful ruler over is myself I decided to titled this blog entry: Great Quotes from the Peaceful Ruler. If you decide you want to pass any or all of these original quotes onto others, please include my copyright notice. Thank you.

Great Quotes From the Peaceful RULER
Copyright 2008

  • When someone treats us unkindly we learn how to treat others with great kindness.
  • Living today successfully would not be a burden at all if we could leave our past behind.
  • Purpose, any purpose at all, large or small, that makes us happy, makes life worth living. Without purpose, there is no reason to live and then life becomes hard, very hard.
  • Strangers can love you easier than family because strangers have no history with you that they can hold against you.
  • Lavishing your children with unconditional love and acceptance once they leave the house is something that will make your children "forgive and forget" all the things you did wrong to them during their growing up years.
  • Competition is not kindness, cooperation is.
  • You are perfect in every way until you compare yourself with another.
  • Only people who live in fear feel the need to do violence to others.
  • Everything you see, read and hear makes a difference in your life and sometimes it is the smallest things that make the biggest difference.
  • If every person treated themselves with great kindness, compassion, love and self-understanding, imagine how well they would treat other people.
  • God allows us to suffer in order that we can grow in compassion and sensitivity towards the suffering of others. Suffering however is optional and not a requirement to become sensitive to the suffering of others.
  • If we truly saw all others as our sisters and brothers, it would be much easier to create a world that works for everyone with no one left out.


Be Grateful for your Disease

Disease is not punishment from God.
Disease does not mean you are flawed.
Disease does not mean you did something wrong.
Disease is not a bad thing.
Disease is not cured by doctors or drugs alone.
Disease is not terminal unless you believe it is...

Here is what dis-ease is: In its simplest form, disease is a result of people being ill at ease with themselves. If you are not at peace with yourself, disease shows up in your physical body not as punishment but to show you the way to a better life than the one you were living before. A life free from the stress, anxiety and worry that contributed to your disease showing up in your life in the first place.

Disease makes you re-evaluate your life and what you think you know. Disease makes you stop long enough to question the things you have been doing for years that have not satisfied you. Disease give you the time to think about yourself and your needs rather than ignoring them.

Disease is a benevolent teacher, in disguise, that wants to teach you how to get in touch with your authentic power so you can create your future life exactly the way you want it to be.

I have had to deal with my share of illness down through the years and I can tell you from first hand experience, doctors and drugs, alone, do not cure disease. They are God's helpers but it is ourselves, working in partnership with the God of our understanding, that creates the conditions that establishes fully restored health in our physical body.

Our part in curing ourselves of disease is to understand all the blessings our disease is lavishing upon us. When you understand what a incredible blessing your disease is, it will disappear from your life as quickly as it came into your life and you will miss it when it is gone.

Frederick Zappone, Blog Author
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Expressing gratitude for what you have (or had) guarantees you will have more.


The MIRACLE of Ho'oponopono

MIRACLES are nothing more than natural laws at work we yet don't understand.

Ho'oponopono is one of those MIRACLES.

Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian method for problem solving.

Honoponopono is the easiest of all methods to use and it WORKS.

I am a Honoponopono novice but as someone who has been in the personal and spiritual growth fields for over 25 years I know a thing or two about 'what works and what doesn't work' when it comes to achieving wealth, health, prosperity and happiness in life. HO'OPONOPONO gets the job done because it allows you to ERASE your problems away with effortless ease freeing you up to attract all the good things your heart desires

Too good to be true you say?

The Astonishing thing about Ho'onponopono is that it is TRUE...

I know you have lots of questions about Ho'oponopono so I have provided links to the four best resources on the planet when it come to helping you understand the ease, power and simplicity of the real life MAGIC of Ho'oponopono. To find out more about Ho'oponopono visit one or all four of these sites:

As you begin using Ho'onponopono in your life, please come back and share your real life MIRACLES with us... - Frederick Zappone


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Heal Yourself with Ho'oponopono

An Interview with Ihaleakala Hew Len
By Cat Saunders

How do you thank someone who has helped to set you free? How do you thank a man whose gentle spirit and zinger statements have forever altered the course of your life?

Ihaleakala Hew Len is such a man for me. Like a soul brother who shows up unexpectedly in an hour of need, Ihaleakala came into my life in March of 1985, during a time of massive change for me. I met him during a training called "Self I-Dentity Through Ho'oponopono," which he facilitated along with the late Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona, a native Hawaiian kahuna ("keeper of the secret").

For me, Ihaleakala and Morrnah are part of the rhythm of life. Though I love them both dearly, I don't really dwell on thoughts of them as people, yet their influence is always there for me, beating a steady pulse like African drums in the night. Recently, I had the honor of being asked to interview Ihaleakala by The Foundation of I, Inc. (Freedom of the Cosmos), an organization founded by Morrnah. It was an even greater honor to learn that he would be coming from his home in Hawaii to meet with me personally.

Dr. Ihaleakala S. Hew Len is the foundation's president and administrator. Together with Morrnah, Ihaleakala has worked with thousands of people over the years, including groups at the United Nations, UNESCO (United Nations Educational, Scientific and Cultural Organization), International Human Unity Conference on World Peace, World Peace Conference, Traditional Indian Medicine Conference, Healers for Peace in Europe, and the Hawaii State Teachers Association. He also has extensive experience working with developmentally disabled people and with the criminally mentally ill and their families. In all his work as an educator, the Ho'oponopono process supports and permeates every breath of his efforts.

Simply put, Ho'oponopono means, "to make right," or "to rectify an error." According to the ancient Hawaiians, error arises from thoughts that are tainted by painful memories from the past. Ho'oponopono offers a way to release the energy of these painful thoughts, or errors, which cause imbalance and disease.

Along with the updated Ho'oponopono process, Morrnah was guided to include the three parts of the self, which are the key to Self I-Dentity. These three parts — which exist in every molecule of reality — are called the Unihipili (child/subconscious), the Uhane (mother/conscious), and the Aumakua (father/superconscious). When this "inner family" is in alignment, a person is in rhythm with the Divinity. With this balance, life begins to flow. Thus, Ho'oponopono helps restore balance in the individual first, and then in all of creation.

By introducing me to this three-part system, along with the most powerful forgiveness process I know (Ho'oponopono), Ihaleakala and Morrnah taught me this: the best way to bring healing to every part of my life — and to the entire universe — is to take 100% responsibility and work on myself. In addition, they taught the simple wisdom of total self-care. As Ihaleakala said in a thank-you note after our interview: "You take good care of yourself. If you do, all will be beneficiaries."

Once, Ihaleakala left for an entire afternoon in the middle of a training I was taking, because his Unihipili (child/subconscious) told him to go to his hotel and take a long nap. Of course, he was responsible about leaving, and Morrnah was there to teach. Even still, his exit made a lasting impression on me. For someone like me, raised in a family and culture that admonished me to put others first, Ihaleakala's actions astounded and delighted me. He got his nap, and I got an unforgettable lesson in self-care.

Cat: Ihaleakala, when I met you in 1985, I'd just started private practice after working as a counselor in agencies for four years. I remember you said, "All therapy is a form of manipulation." I thought, "Jeez! What am I supposed to do now?" I knew you were right, so I almost quit! Obviously, I didn't, but that statement completely changed the way I work with people.

Ihaleakala: Manipulation happens when I (as a therapist) come from the idea that you are ill and I am going to work on you. On the other hand, it's not manipulation if I realize that you are coming to me to give me a chance to look at what's going on in me. There's a big difference.
If therapy is about your belief that you're there to save the other person, heal the other person, or direct the other person, then the information you bring will come out of the intellect, the conscious mind. But the intellect has no real understanding of problems and how to approach them. The intellect is so picayunish is its way of solving problems! It doesn't realize that when a problem is solved by transmutation — by using Ho'oponopono or related processes — then the problem and everything related to it is solved, even at microscopic levels and back to the beginning of time.

So first of all, I think the most important question to ask is, "What is a problem?" If you ask people this, there's no clarity. Because there's no clarity, they make up some way of solving the problem…

Cat: … as if the problem is "out there."

Ihaleakala: Yes. For example, the other day I got a call from the daughter of a woman who is 92. She said, "My mother's had these severe hip pains for several weeks." While she's talking to me, I'm asking this question of the Divinity, "What is going on in me that I have caused that woman's pain?" And then I ask, "How is it that I can rectify that problem within me?" The answers to these questions come, and I do whatever I'm told.

Maybe a week later the woman calls me and says, "My mother's feeling better now!" This doesn't mean the problem won't recur, because there are often multiple causes for what appears to be the same problem.

Cat: I have a lot of recurring illness and chronic pain. I work with it all the time, using Ho'oponopono and other clearing processes to make amends for all the pain I've caused since the beginning of time.

Ihaleakala: Yes. The idea being that people like us are in the healing professions because we have caused a lot of pain.

Cat: Big time!

Ihaleakala: How wonderful to know that, and to have people pay us for having caused them their problems!

I said this to a woman in New York, and she said, "God, if only they knew!" But you see, nobody knows. Psychologists, psychiatrists, they keep thinking that they're there to help heal the other person.

So if someone like you comes to me, I say to the Divinity, "Please, whatever is going on in me that I have caused this pain in Cat, tell me how I can rectify it." And I will apply whatever information I'm given indefinitely, until your pain is gone or until you ask me to stop. It's not so much the effect that is important as the getting to the problem. That's the key.

Cat: You don't focus on the outcome, because we're not in charge of that.

Ihaleakala: Right. We can only petition.

Cat: We also don't know when a particular pain or illness will shift.

Ihaleakala: Yes. Say a woman has been taking an herb that was suggested for her, and it's not working. Again, the question is "What's going on in me that this woman is experiencing this herb not working for her?" I would work on that. I would keep cleaning, keep my mouth closed, and allow the process of transmutation to take place. As soon as you engage the intellect, the process stops. The thing to remember when some kind of healing doesn't seem to be working is this: there may be multiple errors — multiple problems or painful memories that are causing the pain. We know nothing! Only the Divinity knows what's really going on.

I gave a presentation out in Dallas last month, and I spoke with this woman, a Reiki master. I said, "Let me ask you a question. When somebody comes to you with a problem, where is that problem?" She looked puzzled when I said, "You're the one who caused the problem, so your client is going to pay you to heal your problem!" Nobody gets that.

Cat: 100% responsibility.

Ihaleakala: 100% knowing that you're the cause of the problem. 100% knowing that you have the responsibility, then, to rectify the error. Can you imagine if we all knew we are 100% responsible?

I made a deal with myself ten years ago that I would treat myself to a hot fudge sundae — so huge it would make me sick — if I could get through the day without having some judgment of someone. I've never been able to do it! I notice I catch myself more often, but I never get through a day.

So how do I get that across to people — that we are each 100% responsible for problems? If you want to solve a problem, no matter what kind of problem, work on yourself. If the problem is with another person, for example, just ask yourself, "What's going on in me that's causing this person to bug me?" People only show up in your life to bug you! If you know that, you can elevate any situation, and you can release there. It's simple: "I'm sorry for whatever's going on. Please forgive me."

Cat: You don't have to actually say that out loud to them, and you don't even have to understand the problem.

Ihaleakala: That's the beauty of this. You don't have to understand. It's like the Internet. You don't understand all this! You just go to the Divinity and you say, "Can we download?" and the Divinity downloads, and then you get the necessary information. But because we don't know who we are, we never download direct from the Light. We go outside.

I remember Morrnah used to say, "It's an inside job." If you want to be successful, it's an inside job. Work on yourself!

Cat: I know that 100% responsibility is the only thing that works, but I used to struggle with this stuff, because I'm an overly responsible caretaker type. When I heard you talking about 100% responsibility not just for myself, but for every situation and problem, I thought, "Whoa! This is crazy! I don't need anybody telling me to be even more responsible!" Yet the more I thought about it, the more I realized that there's a big difference between overly responsible caretaking, versus totally responsible self-care. One is about being a good little girl, and the other is about getting free.

I remember you talking about the years when you were a staff psychologist at Hawaii State Hospital for the Criminally Insane. You said that when you started working there, the ward for criminals was full of violence, and when you left four years later, there was none.

Ihaleakala: Basically, I took 100% responsibility. I just worked on myself.

Cat: You said that when you worked with the inmates, they wouldn't even be there with you.

Ihaleakala: Right. I would only go into the building to check the results. If they still looked depressed, then I'd work on myself some more.

Cat: Would you tell a story about using Ho'oponopono for so-called inanimate objects?

Ihaleakala: I was in an auditorium once getting ready to do a lecture, and I was talking to the chairs. I asked, "Is there anybody I've missed? Does anyone have a problem that I need to take care of?" One of the chairs said, "You know, there was a guy sitting on me today during a previous seminar who had financial problems, and now I just feel dead!" So I cleaned with that problem, and I could just see the chair straightening up. Then I heard, "Okay! I'm ready to handle the next guy!"

What I actually try to do is teach the room. I say to the room and everything in it, "Do you want to learn how to do Ho'oponopono? After all, I'm going to leave soon. Wouldn't it be nice if you could do this work for yourselves? Some say yes, some say no, and some say, "I'm too tired!"

Then I ask the Divinity, "If they say they would like to learn, how can I help them learn?" Most of the time, I get this: "Leave the blue book (Self I-Dentity Through Ho'oponopono) with them." So I just take the blue book out and leave it on one of the chairs or on a table while I'm talking. We don't give tables enough credit for being quiet and aware of what is going on!

Ho'oponopono is really very simple. For the ancient Hawaiians, all problems begin as thought. But having a thought is not the problem. So what's the problem? The problem is that all our thoughts are imbued with painful memories, memories of persons, places, or things.

The intellect working alone can't solve these problems, because the intellect only manages. Managing things is no way to solve problems. You want to let them go! When you do Ho'oponopono, what happens is that the Divinity takes the painful thought and neutralizes or purifies it. You don't purify the person, place, or thing. You neutralize the energy you associate with that person, place, or thing. So the first stage of Ho'oponopono is the purification of that energy.

Now something wonderful happens. Not only does that energy get neutralized; it also gets released, so there's a brand new slate. Buddhists call it the Void. The final step is that you allow the Divinity to come in and fill the void with light.

To do Ho'oponopono, you don't have to know what the problem or error is. All you have to do is notice any problem you are experiencing physically, mentally, emotionally, whatever. Once you notice, your responsibility is to immediately begin to clean, to say, "I'm sorry. Please forgive me."

Cat: So the true job of the intellect is not to solve problems, but to ask for forgiveness.

Ihaleakala: Yes. My job here on earth is twofold. My job is first of all to make amends. My second job is to awaken people who might be asleep. Almost everyone is asleep! The only way I can awaken them is to work on myself. Our interview is an example. For weeks before our appointment today, I've been doing the clearing work, so when you and I meet, it's like two pools of water coming together. They move through and they go. That's all.

Cat: In ten years of doing interviews, this is the only one I didn't prepare for. Every time I checked in, my Unihipili said that I should just come and be with you. My intellect went nuts trying to convince me that I should prepare, but I didn't.

Ihaleakala: Good for you! The Unihipili can be really fun. One day I was coming down the highway in Hawaii. When I started to head toward the usual off-ramp, I heard my Unihipili say in a singing voice, "I wouldn't go down there if I were you." I thought, "But I always go there." Then when we got closer, about fifty yards away, I heard, "Hello! I wouldn't go down there if I were you!" Second chance. "But we always go down there!"

Now I'm talking out loud and people in cars around me are looking at me like I'm crazy. About 25 yards away, I hear a loud, "I wouldn't go down there if I were you!" I went down there, and I sat for two and a half hours. There was a huge accident. Couldn't move back, couldn't move forward. Finally, I heard my Unihipili say, "Told you!" Then it wouldn't talk to me for weeks! I mean, why talk to me if I wasn't going to listen?

I remember one time when I was going to be on television to talk about Ho'oponopono. My children heard about it and they said, "Dad, we heard you are going to be on TV. Make sure your socks match!" They didn't care what I said. They just cared that my socks matched. See how children know the important things in life?

This interview was originally published by The New Times in September 1997.



Being Yourself

Any time you feel ill at ease with yourself you are not being yourself, that's how you can tell.

A Fable about Bullsh*t

A wealthy old lady decided to go on a photo safari in Africa. She took her faithful pet poodle along for company.

One day, the poodle starts chasing butterflies and before long the poodle discovers that he is lost. So, wandering about, he notices a leopard heading rapidly in his direction with the obvious intention of having lunch.

The poodle thinks, "OK, I'm in deep trouble now! Then he noticed some bones on the ground close by, and immediately settles down to chew on the bones with his back to the approaching cat.

Just as the leopard is about to leap, the poodle exclaims loudly, "Boy, that was one delicious leopard. I wonder if there are any more around here. "

Hearing this, the leopard halts his attack in mid-stride, as a look of terror comes over him, and slinks away into the trees.

"Whew," says the leopard. "That was close. That poodle nearly had me."

Meanwhile, a monkey who had been watching the whole scene from a nearby tree figures he can put this knowledge to good use and trade it for protection from the leopard. So, off he goes. But the poodle saw him heading after the leopard with great speed, and figured that something must be up. The monkey soon catches up with the leopard, spills the beans and strikes a deal for himself with the leopard.

The leopard is furious at being made a fool of and says, "Here monkey, hop on my back and see what's going to happen to that conniving canine."

Now the poodle sees the leopard coming with the monkey on his back, and thinks, "What am I going to do now?" But instead of running, the dog sits down with his back to his attackers, pretending he hasn't seen them yet... and just when they get close enough to hear the poodle says......................

"Where's that darn monkey? I sent him off half an hour ago to bring me another leopard!"


~~~ author unknown ~~~


Blaming another is a reaction we have when we are unexpectedly confronted with an unpleasant situation. Blame is also the way we give our power away to another. When we quit blaming another we are able to take back our power and turn a problem into an opportunity.


People like to give us their problems. I never accept another person's problem as my own because when I do I prevent them experiencing the thrill of solving their problem themselves.