Without exception when you fight any negative quality about yourself, you give that negative quality more power over you. Fighting, hating, resisting or disliking anything about yourself or another automatically causes you to fight, hate and dislike those things even more. It's natural to want to get away from those qualities that you do not like about yourself or others but fighting or resisting them only keeps them stuck to you like super glue. Fighting or resisting anything is like the chinese finger trap.
The harder you work to pull your fingers free from the trap, the tighter the trap grips your fingers. The only way out of the trap is to quit resisting it, give into to it and when you do, the trap releases its grip from your finger tips and you are able to set yourself free.
The same is true when you resist or fight with anything you do not like about yourself or another. The more you struggle to set yourself free from what do not like, the more you become entangled and trapped by the very things you do not like.... The moment you quit resisting what you do not like is the moment you can set yourself free from it.
Accepting, in the moment, what you do not like sets you free to create what you DO like.... You do not have to like something to accept it. You only have to accept it to set yourself free from it.