The most important thing you can do for yourself is love yourself regardless of the people or circumstances around you.
Any time you feel negative you are 'unconsciously' abusing yourself in some way. You could be doubting yourself, beating yourself up, criticizing yourself, or putting yourself down.
If you allow your circumstances or the people around you to determine how you feel, they will control the quality of your life and you will not.
Loving yourself regardless of circumstances takes practice but it is worth it. Loving yourself attracts to you a completely different set of circumstances than when you are putting yourself down in some way. The more you love yourself, the better life will become for you.
The most important thing you can do for you yourself is giving up arguing with yourself. Arguing with yourself changes nothing and in fact contributes to unwanted conditions and circumstances persisting.
Arguing with yourself is the worst form of self abuse because it causes you to experience needless guilt, conflict, suffering and pain.
When you begin giving yourself the gift of loving and accepting yourself and your life exactly as it is, on a daily basis, that is when things, in your life, begin changing for the better as if by magic.
The truth is magic has nothing to do with it while the law of attraction has everything to do with it. When you are loving and accepting yourself regardless of circumstances, you attract the very best things to yourself, often times, in ways the defy all logical explanations. I call these good things miracles in self-love. To read my self-love story, click this link From Self-Loathing To Self-Love, My Journey.