🌝 I Doubt You think Very Much ABOUT YOURSELF.

I think you think about your problems, other people, what you want and don't want. I think you think about what you like and don't like but how often do you 'really' think about YOU?  

If you thought about yourself more often than you do, you would be treating yourself a lot better than you have been treating yourself lately.. And for sure, you would be very, very compassionate towards yourself.  That being said, I believe when it comes to being compassionate with yourself, you are clueless as to what that means..

HERE IS WHAT SELF-COMPASSION MEANS

When you show compassion towards yourself you are being gentle with yourself in both your thoughts and actions. 

When you show compassion toward yourself, you are treating yourself as the priceless child of God that you truly are.

When you show compassion towards yourself, you forgive yourself for not being able to get everything done on time.  You forgive yourself for being less than perfect.  You forgive yourself for all of the mistakes you make. You forgive yourself for your flaws and weaknesses. 

Self-Compassion is treating yourself with the tenderness, love, warmth and protective care you would treat a baby with. 

If you are not being compassionate with yourself on a daily, even on a moment by moment, basis, don't you think it is time to start? 

Self-Compassion will make you healthy, wealthy and wise....

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Excerpted from my forthcoming Book:
FUN, PLAY, LIVING LIFE MY WAY
(If it ain't Easy, it ain't working for me)
Copyright 2019 By Frederick Zappone
Previously published books can be previewed here
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How to go Beyond Your SELF-LOVE Limitations.

Many people write and tell me they can't love themselves any more than they are. They tell me they feel like they are bumping up against a wall. They say they hate themselves for not being able to do a better job at loving themselves. They tell me they feel like a  complete failure in regards to loving themselves. 

My response to them is that you are ALWAYS going to feel that way as long as you are loving yourself conditionally. 

Self-love is not about conditional love. Self-love is not about meeting some 'self-imposed' self-love standard we set for ourselves or  meeting the self-love standards someone else set for us.  

Self-love is unconditional love, it is about us giving up our conditions for loving ourselves and loving ourselves without conditions.

Self love is about ACCEPTING ourselves EXACTLY as we are moment to moment.  And when we can't do that, to forgive ourselves for not being able to accept ourselves exactly as we are.

Self-forgiveness is the foundation for everlasting self-love.  Without self-forgiveness, continuous expanding self-love is not possible.

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- Frederick Zappone

The CURE for Those Times You Feel UNLOVED

Beating yourself up or criticizing yourself pushes the self-love feeling away from you. On the other hand, loving yourself EXACTLY as you are attracts the self-love feeling back to you.

Feeling unloved lets you know that in some area/s of your life you are neglecting being kind and understanding of yourself. Read the 14 point Kindness Checklist to get back to that self-love feeling 

When you feel unloved forgive yourself for whatever you are thinking and/or doing that is causing you to feel a lack of love. 

Forgiving yourself will allow you to feel good about yourself again and any time you are feeling good, you are loving yourself.

Accepting that you are enough and that you do enough will keep you feeling that love for yourself. 

On the other hand, believing you are not good enough or that you don't do enough will take the self-love feeling away from you.

 

Frederick Zappone



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The Love You Seek is Seeking You This Very Moment.

Finding the love you want is not something you chase or pursue, it is something you attract to yourself by being yourself, being true to yourself and  loving yourself exactly as you are. There is nothing more attractive than a person who truly loves and takes good care of themselves. These people radiate love, wisdom, health and prosperity that other people are attracted too..  If you don't love yourself exactly as you are the universe will continue to keep sending people into your life who won't love you either. - From The Self-Love Mastery Teachings

Why I Feel Good NO MATTER WHAT......

Nothing can defeat me except my very own thoughts or my thoughts about other people's thoughts, still my thoughts. I have the choice to be the master of my thoughts or to be the victim of them, I choose to be the master of them by feeling good, no matter what.

When I focus on feeling good it is easy for me to make others feel good too. When I focus on feeling bad, it is easy for me to make others feel bad too, that is why I focus on feeling good no matter what. 

My responsibility to feel good is much larger than myself because my mood influences and effects everyone around me. We are not specks of dust in the cosmos, our moods affect everyone. 

Don't misunderstand me. Feeling good, no matter what, doesn't mean that I never feel negative. It just means I recover from my negative feelings very quickly, most times, in a matter of minutes.

If the idea of feeling good no matter what appeals to you, my self-love reminders will inspire you to feel good when you don't so you can make others feel good too. To receive your self-love reminders, click here.

 

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The Most Important Thing You Can Do For Yourself.

The most important thing you can do for yourself is love yourself regardless of the people or circumstances around you.

Any time you feel negative you are 'unconsciously' abusing yourself in some way. You could be doubting yourself, beating yourself up, criticizing yourself, or putting yourself down.

If you allow your circumstances or the people around you to determine how you feel, they will control the quality of your life and you will not.

Loving yourself regardless of circumstances takes practice but it is  worth it. Loving yourself attracts to you a completely different set of circumstances than when you are putting yourself down in some way. The more you love yourself, the better life will become for you. 

The most important thing you can do for you yourself is giving up arguing with yourself. Arguing with yourself changes nothing and in fact contributes to unwanted conditions and circumstances persisting. 

Arguing with yourself is the worst form of self abuse because it causes you to experience needless guilt, conflict, suffering and pain.

When you begin giving yourself the gift of loving and accepting yourself and your life exactly as it is, on a daily basis, that is when things, in your life, begin changing for the better as if by magic. 

The truth is magic has nothing to do with it while the law of attraction has everything to do with it. When you are loving and accepting yourself regardless of circumstances, you attract the very best things to yourself, often times, in ways the defy all logical explanations. I call these good things miracles in self-love. To read my self-love story, click this link From Self-Loathing To Self-Love, My Journey. 

Your Self-Love ALARM Protects You Against Negativity

Do you know where in your body your 'self-love alarm' goes off when you are not loving yourself enough? Mine goes off in my solar plexus. I have become very sensitive to the workings of my solar plexus because it is the seat of all of our emotions. 

As soon as my solar plexus begins tightening up that immediately ALERTS me that whatever I am thinking or doing is taking me away from loving myself sufficiently. If I continue to ignore my self-love alarm I will end up hating myself and putting myself down in many different ways. 

My alarm was persistent. The more I ignored it, the tighter my solar plexus became until I had no choice but to pay attention to it. When my 'alarm' went off it wanted me to quit doing the 'thoughtless, habitual' thing I was doing that was causing me not to love myself sufficiently. 

Each of us has a Self-Love ALARM located somewhere in our body. For some people it is around their heart area. For others it shows up in the form of headaches or pressure around the temples. For still others, they feel nauseated or they feel their alarm go off in their solar plexus. 

In the past I had the bad habit of ignoring my self-love alarm until it was too late. This caused me to suffer needlessly. To break that bad habit I created a series of 'self-love reminder notes' that I sent myself to make me more aware of those times that I was not loving myself sufficiently. If you would like a copy of the 'notes' I used to break my bad habit, you can get your free copy by clicking here.

You Are More POWERFUL Than You Know. (Article)

1. Thoughts are what you want to believe.  

2. Feelings tells you what you actually believe. 

3. Feelings are what makes your beliefs real to you.

To change what you really believe you must through repetition repeat your new belief (thought), often enough, until it becomes anchored in your subconscious mind. Once that happens, your word will become LAW in your universe and will manifest itself into your physical reality.

Nothing in your life will substantially change until you change your beliefs. The most crippling belief you currently have is not loving all of yourself. Anything less than total acceptance of yourself exactly the way you are destroys your ability to be the magnificent, powerful, lovable to the core person you are destined to be.

Rejection of any part of yourself is what causes you unnecessary stress, tension, worry, self-doubt and needlessly suffering. 

When you love yourself sufficiently you will be able to live in peace and harmony with both your strengths and weaknesses and feel totally confident in fully expressing yourself rather than continuing to go through life holding yourself back or depressing yourself in any way. 

Until you love yourself sufficiently (which gives you the ability to fully accept yourself as you are) you will never possess the strength and power to create your life exactly the way you want it to be.

How I'm Handling My Fears About AMERICAN Politics

I am no different than a lot of people, what is going on in American politics is scaring me.. What's worse is that the American people are scaring me.  We as a nation have become so divided in our thoughts and political beliefs about Trump that fear mongering in America is at an all time high. We have lost our ability to be civil with one another about our differences of opinion over Trump.  

The truth be told, I don't know what to believe these days because everyone seems to be twisting the facts for their own purposes. I honestly don't know if Trump is a saint or a sinner, only time will tell. In the meantime, I choose not to participate in conversations with people that could increase my fears about American politics.

HERE IS HOW I HANDLE MY FEARS

When I feel fear, I don't resist it, I allow it to harmlessly pass me by like clouds in the sky and it does.  My journey on the path of self-love taught me how to do that. My journey taught me that when I am living in fear I am not loving myself, I am abusing myself.

The biggest lesson I learned, on my self-love journey,  is that fear is only a problem for me when I resist it. In fact, when I resist fear it grows in strength and power over me. It causes me to become stressed out and if I don't rein in my fears they can make me a basket case.  However, when I face my fears head on they dissolve naturally.

The other lesson I learned on my self-love journey was to trust and honor my positive feelings more than I was honoring and trusting my negative feelings. I was giving my negative feelings way too much power, in my life, causing me many a sleepless night. 

I learned that I had somehow allowed myself to become afraid of my very own thoughts and feelings and the fear of my own thoughts and feelings didn't end until I starting embracing my fears. 

I did that by literally loving my fears to death. By doing that I starting loving my fears right out of existence. 

It was when I got sick and tired of being afraid and scared of every little thing that I embarked on my personal self-love journey where I would learn to love everything about myself that, in the past, I had resisted, disliked or hated in some way.

Because of my self-love journey I have learned how to live in peace and harmony with the good and bad parts of me, with both the saint and sinner sides of me.

For those of you are who interested everything I learned about making fear disappear from my life I put my experiences on how I did that into a program I created called the 21 Day Self-Love Program, you can read about it by clicking here.

 

How I LOVED My Fears To Death

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Four (4) INSPIRATIONAL Picture Quotations

I make 'picture quotations' for three reasons, one to remind myself of important things, two, to inspire others and three to sell a few books to people who are inspired to purchase my book. I made this wallpaper to put on my computer to remind me of what I consider are the most important things. If my quotations on the wallpaper also ring true for you, feel free to use this wallpaper on your computer and feel free to share it with your friends too. - Frederick Zappone, author Love is All I Know, Amazon.Com

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Love, It's more than a FEELING...

God is LOVE....

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Perfect LOVE... ( 7 Photos)

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Forgiveness POWER....

Forgiveness is like an eraser, it gives us a a clean slate so we can start fresh again.

All great Love's Begin With Great Self-Love

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  Love is All I Know.....

I love myself
I am brilliant 
I am worthy of receiving a million dollars 
I am smart, intelligent, insightful 
I am loved and revered by people everywhere. 
All great love's begin with great self-love
The more I love myself, the more other people love me too.
I was created in love, love is who I am.
Allowing my good is allowing myself to be loved.
Loving myself heals all, solves all, dissolves all.

I act according to how I feel. I feel according to how I think therefore
 I choose to think highly of myself regardless of what other people think.....

 
  
 

Feeling Love Constantly....

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Loving Myself Unconditionally (Including all of my body parts)

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This is one of the most ingenious little books I have ever read.  It is about loving every part of your body by talking to it. What an absurd idea and yet with all the case histories in her book, there must be something to this crazy idea. What is astounding is not only the incredible results the author had had in her own life talking to her body but the incredible results her students have had.  She has been teaching this method of getting what you want out of life, by loving yourself unconditionally by talking to your body, for over 20 years.. I figure $2.99 was a cheap price to find out what the author knew about love that I didn't know.

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Confession: I was raised on Self-Hate.

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My parents didn't intentionally raise me on self-hate, it was the way they were raised. 

You see, back when my parent grew up, emotions were unimportant. Both of my parents came from big  families, my dad had ten brothers and sisters and my mother had nine. They grew up during the Great Depression and went through World War II and the Korean War.  

During their growing up years, life was very tough on my parents and grandparents. How they felt wasn't important to them. What was important to them was surviving.  

As a kid growing up, what I felt wasn't important to my parents, how could it be. What they felt wasn't important to their parents. Life back then was never about feelings, it was about surviving.

I never knew why I hated myself so much. I was good at hating myself. I was not only good at it, worse yet, I was a master at denying how much I hated myself. Denial of emotions is what people do when life is about surviving rather than prospering and thriving.

It wasn't until years later than I came to understand why I was such a good person on the outside yet hated myself so much on the inside. You see, I was raised up to follow the rules and become a good person and make my parent proud as my parents were raised up to make their parents proud. That's what was important back in the time of my parents, looking good, not feeling good.

As a result of my feelings not being important to anyone else, I had no permission to make them important to me.  The way I dealt with negative feelings was to deny them by hating my emotions. I did that until one day my feelings wouldn't be denied any more....  And when my feelings finally did rush to the surface, like an angry tiger released from his cage, I realized how much I hated myself. That explained why I was depressed for years and felt suicidal at times.

Once I realized how much self-hatred I had in me, I used those feelings as an ALERT signal to love myself instead. This required me to love everything about myself including loving my feelings of self-hatred. Not logical I know, but by loving my feelings of self-hatred to death, I literally loved them out of existence. 

If you want to know how I loved the negatives feelings in my life, out of existence, you can read my blog entry titled: How to Burn Off Negative Feeling Quickly

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