How To STOP Your MIND from Making You A Victim

If you want to become the master of your mind, you must first become the skillful OBSERVER of it.  This takes practice but it is so worth it.

Being the OBSERVER of your mind is the ability to step back from thinking about the 'thoughts' running through your mind to simply OBSERVING them. You observe the thoughts running through your mind the same way you observe children at play in the park. You sit quietly somewhere as a spectator and watch your thoughts float into your mind and then back out again.  

Watching the positive thoughts is easy to do. It is not so easy to watch the negative thoughts because your fearful 'reflex reaction' to them is to run away from them rather than OBSERVE them.

The trouble with trying to run from your negative thoughts is that you can't.  They will hunt you down with the ferociousness and appetite of a hungry lion until you pay attention to them by OBSERVING them.

THE WORST INJUSTICE SOCIETY EVER DID TO YOU WAS TO MAKE YOU AFRAID OF YOUR OWN THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS

Negative thoughts and feelings have no power over you at all. They have  ZERO power over you except for the power you give them.  

When you are thinking about the negative thoughts running through your mind that is when you are an active participant with your mind rather than an independent OBSERVER of it. It is during those times that you unwittingly (thoughtlessly) give negative thoughts power over you. 

The negative thoughts your mind serves up to you, without your conscious permission, are both powerful and convincing because they are thoughts living in your subconscious mind outside your immediate conscious control. Negative thoughts living in the subconscious mind  will always be stronger and more powerful than the positive thoughts in your conscious mind until you STOP agreeing with them.

Thoughts living in your subconscious mind have lived there a lot longer than the positive thoughts living in your conscious mind. Some of your negative thoughts  have been living in your subconscious mind for years. Those thoughts  remain in your subconscious mind because you give them power over you by agreeing with them. For a negative thought to make you feel bad, you have to agree with it. It is not possible for a negative thought to make you feel bad once you quit agreeing with it.

Negative thoughts are LIES about yourself that you have accepted, down through the years, as the truth about you.

BAD NEWS, GOOD NEWS

First the bad news, any time you agree with a negative thought you give that thought power over you.  Now for the good news. 

As the OBSERVER of your negative thoughts you are no longer giving them power over you. Instead your are allowing those thoughts to come up into the LIGHT of your conscious mind where they will dissolve naturally if you allow them to harmlessly pass you by like clouds in the sky. This takes practice, lots of it, but it is worth it because this practice will make you the master of your mind rather than continuing to go through  life being victimized by it. - Frederick Zappone

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What do you do when you feel lower than a snake's belly and all of your mental tricks to getting yourself back into that feeling good state of mind again FAIL YOU?  The first thing you do is you don't resist it.  

Your resistance to your mind driving you crazy gives the negativity your mind is dishing out to you more power over you..  

It is only our resistance to the negative stuff  going off in our heads that gives it the power to consume us and turn us into anxiety-ridden, insecure, suicidal, scared little kids.  Feeling that way is not the problem, our resistance to feeling that way is.

MY STORY

Right now for reasons I do not fully understand my mind is dishing out 'negative trash' to me left and right.  I can't stop it and I cannot reason with it. Any attempt to do so makes it louder and stronger.

However when I embrace* those negative thoughts, no matter how petrifying and scary they may be, they loosen their grip on me.  

* Embrace means to accept something willingly. 

To embrace unwanted thoughts take a step back and become the non-judgmental OBSERVER of them... Observe your thoughts like you would observe the action taking place on your TV screen. 

In my case as the OBSERVER of my own thoughts I see drama unfolding, not in my life, but between my ears.

The Mental DRAMA unfolding between my ears.

My greatest physical weakness has always been my teeth. Every other part of my body I have been able to 'process and heal' on my own but my teeth are a different story. This is a result of being severely traumatized by dentists during my childhood.  

FEAR TRIGGERS FEAR  

I have something going on with one of my teeth that holds the 'bridge' in my mouth in place. I fear losing it because if I lose it that means I will need dental implants. The thought of needing dental implants brings up my fear of not having enough money to pay for them. 

That fear triggers my fear of not knowing how to generate money from my writings to meet an unexpected financial obligation. That fear triggers my fear of going into debt which then triggers my fear of going around with no upper teeth if I don't go into debt.  That fear is then followed up with the fear of people seeing me without teeth. That fear  triggers the shame I will feel for not having teeth or the money to pay for them. 

The problem with 'fear triggering fear' is after a while your fears begin to overwhelm you. This makes you feel like you're going to die if you don't immediately solve the problem that triggered fear in you in the first place.

MY CHOICES IS DEALING WITH OVERWHELMING FEAR

At this point I have two choices in regards to successfully dealing with my feelings of fear. I can either get caught up in the mental drama that is playing itself out in my head or I can become the OBSERVER of it and pretend I am watching a scary movie of my own creation. As the 'observer' of my mind's drama, I feel inspired and empowered to become bigger it. However if I keep myself embedded in my thoughts, I will end up feeling discouraged and defeated and become the victim of it.

Frederick Zappone

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