How to go Beyond Your SELF-LOVE Limitations.

Many people write and tell me they can't love themselves any more than they are. They tell me they feel like they are bumping up against a wall. They say they hate themselves for not being able to do a better job at loving themselves. They tell me they feel like a  complete failure in regards to loving themselves. 

My response to them is that you are ALWAYS going to feel that way as long as you are loving yourself conditionally. 

Self-love is not about conditional love. Self-love is not about meeting some 'self-imposed' self-love standard we set for ourselves or  meeting the self-love standards someone else set for us.  

Self-love is unconditional love, it is about us giving up our conditions for loving ourselves and loving ourselves without conditions.

Self love is about ACCEPTING ourselves EXACTLY as we are moment to moment.  And when we can't do that, to forgive ourselves for not being able to accept ourselves exactly as we are.

Self-forgiveness is the foundation for everlasting self-love.  Without self-forgiveness, continuous expanding self-love is not possible.

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Self-Forgiveness Sets You Free To Be More YOU

If you don't first forgive yourself, no one else will either. The moment you forgive yourself, God forgives you too. Self-forgiveness set you free from suffering for your past mistakes

Leave your thoughts on FORGIVENESS on my blog.

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In many ways we seem to live in an unforgiving society. In part, it is because we live in a society based on justice and not forgiveness. While justice has its place, it doesn't forgive and make a person brand new. Only forgiveness can do that.

What do you know about forgiveness?  

Is forgiveness about the another person or exclusively ourselves?

Do you think forgiveness is powerful virtue? 

Or is forgiveness just some form of a sentimental weakness?

What do you understand about forgiveness?

What does forgiveness mean for you?

Have you ever forgiven yourself or another? How did that make you feel? 


Post your thoughts about forgiveness in our comment box:

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Self-Forgiveness Sets Me Free From The Mistakes I Make

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I don't know about you but I can be very hard on myself. You see I have high standards for myself, ridiculously high. I am not sure when I got my standards (performance expectations) or from whom but my self-imposed standards of excellence have caused me to suffer needlessly from time to time... And since I don't like suffering, I discovered forgiving myself for not meeting my high standards releases me from any penalty or punishment (real or imagined) when I don't reach them.. 

Forgive means to: 1. grant pardon for an offense ; to absolve; to set free from punishment. 2. to cease to feel resentment against yourself or others. When I forgive myself I am set free to create what I want rather than being filled with feelings of  guilt, resentment, anger,  anxiety, fear or depression. The unwillingness to forgive myself for my mistakes makes 'nasty feelings' stick to me like SUPER GLUE.  And since I don't like feeling negative, forgiving myself for not meeting my own high standards makes me feel great.

If you have ridiculously high standards for yourself, like I do, then you know that no matter what you do, your best is never good enough... And since that is true for me, I forgive myself for not measuring up. I forgive myself for not being as good as other folks. I forgive myself that my best isn't good enough for other people and in forgiving myself, I accept my best is good enough. it's good enough for me..

Breaking the HABIT of Judging and Criticizing Yourself.

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