Feeling Negative is your INNER BULLY At Work.

Feeling negative ALWAYS alerts you that your 'inner bully' is trying to sabotage you and undermine your confidence in yourself.

Your 'inner bully' lives in your subconscious mind and is made up of all the negative things people ever said or did to you. It then uses your 'inner voice' to masquerades itself as you so you think you are the one who is flawed or defective in some way when you are not.

You defeat your 'inner bully' by making up your mind that you are no longer willing to put up with thoughts that make you feel less than the magnificent, powerful, brilliant, lovable to the core person you truly are.

Feeling negative means you are unconsciously ALLOWING your 'inner bully' to beat you up for something.

Use your 'inner bully' 'beating you up or criticizing you' for something as an ALERT SIGNAL to  consciously practice becoming the master of your bully rather than continuing to allow it to victimize you.

Once you stop allowing your 'inner bully' to beat you up even for the smallest thing, your life will become absolutely magical. 

You will begin attracting into your life all the things you ever wanted. You will attract the things you want in ways you cannot explain all because you mastered no longer beating yourself up even for the smallest thing. 

No longer allowing your 'inner bully' to beat you up will take a bit of time so be gentle with yourself as you work on achieving master over it.

As soon as you hear your 'inner bully' sending a negative thought your way say the word CANCEL. Then immediately replace the negative thought with the opposite thought that makes you feel good to be you. 

Do this often enough and you will replace your 'inner bully' with an 'inner cheerleader' who will be there for you inspiring and empowering, in all ways,  as you travel down the pathway of your life.

How To Stop your DOUBTS from undermining and sabotaging your ability to turn your dreams into REALITY

 

Our doubts are traitors and that make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt. - William Shakespeare

 

There is only one thing you can do with your doubts and one thing only and that is to leave your doubts  alone.  

If you leave your doubts alone, they will leave you alone. If you mess with your doubts, they will mess you up real good.   

You cannot win thinking about or having conversations with your doubts. Your doubts will win those conversations every single time without fail. Worse yet, having conversations with your doubts will cause them to grow stronger and have more power over you than they already do. In addition, focusing on your doubts will attract more doubts to you.

Leaving your doubts alone so they will leave you alone takes practice especially if you have been in the habit of thinking about and entertaining doubts in your mind..

Instead of putting any energy or attention into your doubts use them as ALERT SIGNALS to focus your attention on what you are sure of, what you have certainty about, what you have absolute confidence in.  Focusing on those things will build your self-confidence while at the same time weaken the hold your doubts currently have over you..

Frederick Zappone, 
Author of 7 Empowerment Books

What I do is NOT Good Enough. - Frederick Zappone

I am not good enough at anything I do.

How do I know I am not good enough at anything I do?  I have a lifetime of failures that prove that I'm not good enough at what I do. 

Here is one small example.

I wrote a book titled Love is All I Know that is not good enough.

How do I know the book is not good enough?   Don't you think if it was really good enough thousands of people  would have  bought and read it by now?  Well that didn't  happened.. The sad thing is that the few people who have bought and read it, loved it. 

The reviews that I have received about the book have been very good except for the one two star review I received.

I received this review from a former friend of mine who seemed to enjoy discouraging me from having a career in writing.. He was a good friend of mine for over eighteen years. I finally had to cut him out of my life because he was always putting my dreams down and belittling me for wanting to make money from my writings.

I wrote my book Love Is All I Know over six years ago. I have promoted it every way I know with very little success. 

The one thing that keeps me promoting a book, that clearly is not good enough for many people, are the five star reviews I received from the people who have  bought and read my book so far.

My experience of writing and promoting my book has taught me that while what I do will 'never' be good enough for all people, it will be good enough for some people and that's good enough for me.

This new way of thinking has liberated me from abusive and punishing thoughts. My failures have been blessings in disguise because they have taught me to be kind to myself, to be compassionate with myself. They have allowed me to love and appreciate myself more. 💓💓



Frederick Zappone
Author, Love Is All I Know

Trying Harder UNDERMINES Self-Worth (Article)

Trying Harder sucks and doesn't work...

Trying harder yields ZERO RESULTS. 

Trying harder will undermine your self-worth and lower the level of your self-confidence Trying harder will make you end up feeling stupid. 

Trying harder is a 'stubborn mind' trying to go through a wall rather than finding the doorway and walking through it. 

The only value 'trying harder' has is to WARN you that the thoughts you are thinking and the actions that you are taking are the wrong thoughts and actions for you. They might be right for someone else but not you.

Trying harder might make you falsely believe that you are accomplishing something but all that you are really accomplishing is wasting your time and energy. Time and energy that could be put to a better use that would reward you with satisfaction and enjoyment rather than continuing to cause you to experience frustration and pain.

I use 'trying harder' as an ALERT SIGNAL to shift my focus to thoughts and actions that makes me feel good to be me. Why? 

Because the better I feel about me, the more creative I become and the more things I get done.

Frederick Zappone

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