Your Life, Your RULES

The life you are currently living is a result of the rules you have created for yourself. Granted, many of the rules you live your life by you created thoughtlessly without taking the time to give them conscious thought. 

For example if life is hard for you, you have created RULES that make life hard for you.  If you don't like the rules you are living your life by, you can change them any time you want. I did.  

My RULE for Living My Life, My Way

What I do must be FUN, EASY for me to do and make me FEEL GOOD to be me. If  it doesn't accomplish those things, I don't do it,

Every since I  created that rule for myself, life has been very easy for me.  The other rule I created for myself that has removed a tremendous burden from my life is I no longer feel obligated to solve other people's problems for them.  Thinking I was obligated to own other people's as my own and solve those problem for them made life very hard for me.  These days I own no one's problems but my own. 

Don't get me wrong, I am not insensitive to the other people's problems. I am very sensitive to them and because I am, I inspire and empower people to solve their own problems. I no longer feel  guilty or obligated, in any way, to solve other people's problems for them.

Frederick Zappone

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NEVER Focus on your Problems, Here's Why!

When you have your attention focused on a problem you are focused on something you don't want. Focusing on your problem does not make it go away, it makes it stick to you like super-glue.

Focusing on your problem doesn't make your situation better, it makes it worse.  Focusing on your problem creates a mental barrier that stops you from spontaneously finding the solution to your problem.

If you must focus on your problem, only focus on it long enough to see if there is anything you can do to solve your problem, right now. If there is nothing you can do right now, taking your focus off your problem and put your focus on something you can do something about.

FOCUSING on your problem prevents solutions to your problem from showing up in your mind out of thin air.

FOCUSING on your problem makes you feel powerless, helpless, hopeless, a VICTIM of your problem rather than victorious over it.

FOCUSING on your problem creates many more problems including making you doubt your worthiness to have the things you want.

To solve a problem, don't focus on it. Instead have the 'intention' to solve your problem and then only take actions related to your problem that inspire and empower you in some way.  

Any actions you take in regards to solving your problem that make you feel bad in any way is an ALERT SIGNAL that you are taking actions guaranteed NOT to solve your problem for you.

I've never solved a problem by focusing on it. I have however solved difficult problems by having the 'intention' to do so and then only thinking thoughts and taking actions that made me feel good to be me.

Frederick


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Thinking about the problem makes it Persist (Explained)

You cannot make a problem dissolve by thinking about it, You cannot make the problem go away by focusing on it. Why? 

Because when you are thinking about the problem, your attention is focus on what you DON'T want (the problem) rather than what you DO want (no problem).

The absolute fastest way to make any problem disappear is not to think about it at all. The moment you quit thinking about the problem, the answer to the problem will appear in your mind out of thin air.

If you can't quit thinking about your problem then turn it over to someone else to solve it for you.  It is always easier for someone else to solves our problem for us rather than ourselves. Why? 

Because problems are uncomfortable and as soon as we resist being uncomfortable we become attached to the problem. 

Once we become attached to the problem, it is not possible to solve it until we let go of it. Other people can solves our problems for us much more quickly than we can because they are not attached to them. They have objectivity about our problem that we do not have therefore they are able to clearly see solutions to our problem when all we are able to see are obstacles and roadblocks.

Don't know what to do next?? GO PLAY. Here's Why

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When you don't know what to do next, GO PLAY.. Trying to force an answer or solution will stress you out. And if you persist, 99% of the time your desire for an immediate solution or answer will backfire on you and cause you to get into an argument with another person or result in you being upset for no good reason at all.  When you don't know what to do next, admit to yourself you don't know and go play. While playing, the answer will either come to you or you will realize your need for an immediate answer is not necessary at all.

Generally speaking, the UNIVERSE (the God of your understanding) provides answers and knowledge on a need to know basis.  If you don't know, you don't need to know... And if you do need to know, you will.  That's been my experience about knowing.

A relaxed mind solves problem easily. A stressed out mind delays problems 

being solved while a closed mind prevent problems from being solved altogether.

Let Life AMAZE You, I do!...
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The 'Do Nothing' Approach To Problem Solving

If you have a  problem of any kind and you have done everything you know to do to make it disappear from your life and still the problem persists, DO NOTHING. Let me explain.

Putting time and energy into a problem you cannot solve allows it to grow in strength and power over you until you are completely powerless to do anything about the problem.

Often times, with a chronic problem, you are resisting it and fighting with it which makes it persist rather than disappear from your life.  After you have done everything you know to do to make a chronic problem disappear from your life, if you do nothing, one of the following three things will happen to the problem.  

NUMBER 1. The problem will go POOF and disappears from your life for no logical reason you can explain. One day you have the problem and the next day you are aware that the problem is no longer in your life.  

NUMBER 2. In doing nothing to solve your problem, the mind relaxes and when you least expect it, the answer to your problem spontaneously appear in your mind, seemingly out of thin air. And when the answer does appear, even before you apply the answer, you will know with absolutely certainty the answer will solve the problem for you.  (This happens to me a lot.)

NUMBER 3. During the time you are doing nothing to solve your problem a person will show up in your life, unexpectedly, who will solve your problem for you.

To have any one of these three 'problems solving solutions' show up in your life, all you have to do is keep your focus on thoughts and actions that make you feel good to be you. 

Frederick Zappone

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Relaxed

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A relaxed mind solves even the most difficult problems life throws our way with the greatest of ease. A stressed out mind delays problems being solved. A closed mind 
prevent problems from being solved altogether.

Release

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You cannot solve a problem until you release the problem.
The moment you mentally release the problem, you create
room in your mind for the answer to spontaneously appear.

Solved

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A relaxed mind solves even the most difficult problems, in life, easily. 
A stressed out mind delays problems being solved. A closed mind 
prevents problems from being solved altogether.

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THE PATH TO FREEDOM

Modern times are complicated and troubling filled with fear and yet there is another way to live in this world without being afraid of anything.  Fear is caused by believing that someone or something outside yourself has power over the circumstances of your life. When you deeply realize that no one has control over your life except you, you are set free.  Believing your mother, your father, your spouse, your employer or your government controls your life imprisons you.  Ask your questions and receive answers that will set you free to be you.  You can ask your questions publicly (by leaving a comment below) or privately To ask a private question and receive a personal response, click here
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Focused ATTENTION Solves Problems

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FOCUS, FOCUS, FOCUS...
 
When faced with a problem, don't focus on it, that will only make it larger. Instead focus on the solution. Focusing on a solution puts you back in control of your life while focusing on the problem keeps you feeling powerless and ineffective, making you the victim of your problem rather than the victor.




WHAT ARE YOU FOCUSING YOUR ATTENTION ON TODAY?

Whatever you focus your attention on the most, you attract more of the same.


Are you focusing your attention on the problem or the solution? Are you focusing your attention on what you don't want or DO WANT?  Whatever you focus your attention on, you attract more of the same. Focus on what makes you happy and you will attract more happiness to you.
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