My Best is NEVER Good Enough. I'm okay with that.

I never fight with negative thoughts that judge me to be deficient in some way.  Why? Because fighting with negative thoughts only makes me feel lower than a snake's belly and since I don't like feel badly about myself I don't fight with negative thoughts at all. 

I've learned to accept negative thoughts as part of my life and move on.  As an example, all my life I have been told my best wasn't good enough. I was told that my best was not good enough so often that I came to believe it. I not only believed it but I collected years of proof, especially in my chosen field of writing, that my best is not good enough.

I love writing but few people buy my books, I've published six so far. I love posting messages to my blog but people rarely comment. All of this is proof to me that my best isn't good enough. I have no idea why people don't comment on my blog posts or buy my books. Maybe my writings aren't appealing enough, maybe they don't stir people's emotions enough. Maybe I am too arrogant or come across as a know it all or a holier than thou person. I have no idea how I come across to people.

I have tried to change so other people would approve of my writings but the more I changed to please others, the less I was pleased with myself... The worst part of being told that your best is not good enough is using that criticism as an excuse to beat yourself up or criticize yourself for not living up to the standards other people have set for you.

I don't beat myself up any more for my best not being good enough.  Learning to love and accept myself exactly as I am has allowed me to accept that my best isn't good enough. Here is the important thing, my best may not be good enough in the eyes of others but I made up my mind that my best is always good enough in my own eyes. 

As long as I am worried about other people accepting my best as good enough, I am doomed to a lifetime of hurt and disappointment. However once I accepted my best was good enough for me, I have been able to write and enjoy the process of writing regards of whether people leave comments about my writings or buy my books. In the final analysis, experience has taught me that my best for today is always good enough because my best of today will always be better tomorrow.

In other words, practice makes perfect and eventually my writings will become so good that people will buy my books in the millions, that is if I live long enough.  I will admit, if people buy millions of my books after I die, I am going to be royally pissed off on the other side. 😊

12 Unsuccessful Life Strategies

Do not look to your past to predict your 

future otherwise you will repeat your past.

 

The One Attitude You Must Have to be SUCCESSFUL

Convincing others of anything is a waste of your time. The only person you must convince of anything is yourself. If you are convinced an idea will work for you, it has no choice but to come true for you. 

The fact is, if you are convinced that your ideas will work for you others will be convinced too.  And if you are not convinced, all your attempts to convince others will end up in failure for you.

When you feel it, you are convinced.  

Your convictions live in your feelings. To achieve impossible success in your life, you must convince yourself that it can be done.... And once you feel that it can be done, it will be done and you will do it.

DO ONLY WHAT WORKS FOR YOU..

Have no loyalty or allegiance to any thought, belief, dogma, doctrine, philosophy, opinion or point of view that does not work for you. Your only allegiance should be to doing to what WORKS for you, what makes you feel good about being you and harms no others in the process of acquiring or attracting to yourself the good things you want.

Suggested Reading:

  Attracting MONEY By Thought Alone (Article)

 

Getting over Past Disappointments and Hurts.

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Most everyone I know has had plenty of disappointments, early in life, as a result of failing or not achieving what they wanted. As a young person, not knowing any better, many of us made the decision that we would never be hurt again so we started resisting the possibility of future disappointments by either giving up on what we wanted or by resisting what LIFE was serving up to us moment by moment. By resisting life, by judging life, by believing life was against us, we have been keeping what we have truly desired, at a distance from ourselves, always just outside your reach.... Surrender to 'what is', give up all resistance to 'what is'... Resistance doesn't change 'what it,' it just makes it persist. If you want what you say you want, surrender, let go, release, give up all thoughts and feelings that are stopping what you want from coming to you or the universe guiding you to it. - Frederick Zappone,  author of: Love Is All I Know (Amazon)

 

 

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The Attitude that Guarantees Your SUCCESS

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When all else fails you, persistence will see you through to the success you want. There is nothing like persistence to wear away the obstacles and roadblocks that are between you and what you want.  More importantly, your action of 'persistence' sends a loud and clear message to the universe that you will not be denied and upon hearing your 'intention' strongly worded, the universe begins working behind the scenes of your life orchestrating people and events in your favor so your success is guaranteed. 

                                 --- Frederick Zappone

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In this day and age with so much negativity in the air, a tool like my newsletter, will give you the 'slight edge' over your competition. When others are focused on the negativity around them, you will continue to achieve great success during hard times. The reason you will is because my newsletter will keep you focused on the one thing that makes all the difference between your success and failure, in life, and that is your persistent attitude of excellence in all that you say and do.

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NEVER give up on your DREAM... Here's why.

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This is my story about my dream. In my story, you will find the story about your dream. It is true, your dream will be different than mine but the reason why you can't give up on your dream will be the same as mine.

I have a dream, my dream is for my writings about life to be so good and have so much value in them that they make people want to enthusiastically support my writings with donations.  I have been writing this blog since September, 2005 and  I rarely get donations.  In spite of a lack of donations, this is my full-time job. 

People ask me all the time:  "What motivates you to continue to write after being a financial failure with your writings for almost seven years."  
 
I tell them, it is my dream to become so good at writing the things I do that people will feel compelled to support my writings with donations.  They say; "why don't you charge for your writings?"  I say anyone can charge for their writings but that doesn't mean they are any good. I have bought many a book where what was inside the book wasn't worth the price I paid for it."

It is my dream for my writings to be so inspirational that people will feel so much gratitude for having read them that they can't stop themselves from donating money in support of my writings. That's how good I want my writings to become, that is part of my dream.

What has sustained my dream of a being a writer is not donations but rather, each and every day, getting better and better at what I do...  If you look at my blog archive going back to September, 2005, you will notice a huge improvement in my writings over the last seven years. I can't even begin to imagine how good my writings will be seven years from now but I know they will be amazing.  It is my goal to do the ordinary, writing, extraordinary well. It is my goal to move people to tears and take their breath away with my words. My dream is to become the 'Michelangelo' of writing. 

The #1 Reason Not To Give Up On A Dream

After seven years, almost daily there comes a time when I feel like giving up on my dream  but I won't because if I give up on my dream, I am giving up on me. And the moment I give up on me is the moment something inside me dies and once that happens it won't be long until I die.... 

And since I have no intention of dying, I will write and write until my writings become so good that people overwhelm me with donations in support of my writings and then the second part of my dream can come true. That is where I travel all over the world with my computer writing about life in other countries. 

By the way, it is never too late to work on making your dream come true. If I can work on making my dream come true at 70, you can work on making your dream come true at 22, 42, 52 or a 102.

Gratitude and Appreciation

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Expecting something, don't... Here is why

I have been on this planet a few years and I can tell you from personal experience and the personal experiences of  thousands of others, expectations have zero value except to cause you upset. Expectations are from hell. 

They are designed by the devil himself to stress you out, make you lose your patience and become frustrated when your expectations aren't being met when you think they should be met.  Worse yet, expectations stop you from taking inspired action to make sure what you want to happen will happen..


Winners and champions do not have expectations.   Instead they have confidence, in themselves, they will succeed at what they do and most of the times they do therefore they have no reason for expectations. Expectations set you up to be hurt and disappointed time and time again until you see expectations have no value in your life except to depress you and make you feel powerless and ineffective as a human being.

“If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never be disappointed.” ― Sylvia Plath

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” ― Donald Miller

“When you stop expecting perfection from yourself, you will no longer expect it from others.” - Unknown

“Expectations give you false hope and set you up for failure.”  -  Elvis Presley

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Your Subconscious Mind is your GPS to Success (Article explains all)

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I became an overnight success after 30 years. It took me 30 years to achieve the success I wanted because I was an idiot.....  You see, I thought it was my conscious mind that determined if I would succeed or fail. 

No one ever taught me that my conscious mind allowed me to set the direction I wanted to go but it would be my subconscious mind that would make sure I got there.  

No one ever explained to me that the conscious mind was the captain of my ship and the subconscious mind was my GPS that would guide me to my destination. 

As a result of not knowing about the functions of the conscious and subconscious mind, instead of relying on my GPS to guide me to the success I wanted, I was always guessing.  'Is it this way or that.'  'Is this the right way or the wrong way.' This caused me to go in circles for years never making any real progress at all.  In fact, if you ever watched the movie  'Groundhog Day' starring Bill Murray, my life was almost exactly like that for ten years. Doing the same thing day in and day out (or a variation of the same thing) and expecting a different result, I was not only an idiot, I was infected with the family insanity virus which believed that if you did the same thing over and over again, eventually it would produce a different result.

 

Changing Self-Defeating Behavior.

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There is only one time you can change self-defeating behavior. And that is before the fact. You can't change it while you are acting out your self-defeating behavior. You can't change it after, you will only repeat it. You have to be consciously aware, in advance, that you are about to perform an act of self-defeating behavior and make the conscious choice not to do it.
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Thought Mastery

The Right Positive Attitude About FAILURE

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Feeling like a failure can last a minute but thinking you are a failure can last a lifetime. Failure is not final unless you say it is. Failure is nothing more than a lesson learned on your way to success.

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Freeing Yourself From FAILURE

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As soon as you accept that you have failed, you are free to succeed. Non-acceptance of your failure keeps you feeling like a failure long after the actually failure has taken place. http://frederickzappone.com/

 


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Success

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Success requires you to be committed to doing 'what works' and discard all things that do not work. Do not let disappointment stop you from trying new things or different things until you achieve the success you want. In the end, victory goes to the one who persisted in achieving the success they wanted when others gave up along the way.
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The false belief that there is something wrong with you stops you from 
achieving the relationship and money success you want. Once you give up that 
'false belief,' success in those areas of your life will be easy for you to achieve.

Success Path

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Along your path to success, failure will speak to you often. Always
the same question, 'Do you really want what you say you want? If you do, 
keep going! If not, quit!'  How you answer failure determines your success.

Single Cause for Failure and Misery...

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When you are failing or feeling the most miserable, take notice, it's an attitude of ingratitude that is causing the problem. There is nothing that causes misery or failure to happen faster than being ungrateful.  Ungratefulness is to your material and financial world what cancer is to your body, a very serious disease.  It is a mental disease of the worst type. 

It makes your whole attitude sour and all you see is the worst in everything and in everybody including yourself.  On the other hand, expressing gratitude for what you have will reverse the results of what 'ingratitude' has brought into your life.  Expressing gratitude for what you have guarantees you that you will attract more good things into your life to be grateful for. It's the law.

Grateful - warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received.





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