What do you do when people IGNORE you and no one wants what you have to OFFER? (Explained)

If people keep ignoring you and don't give you what you want, it is critically important that you keep doing what feels good for you to do. That's what I do, that's what you must do too.

In time, if you remain true to your 'good feelings,' people will stop ignoring you and and start wanting what you have to offer. Why?  because goods feelings (vibrations) sooner or later always attract what you want.  It is not a matter of if you will attract what you want, it is only a matter of when if you stay true to your good feelings.

Your feelings are the first physical evidence that you are attracting something (good or bad) to yourself. If you don't like what you are attracting to yourself, change your thoughts. Changing your thoughts will change your feelings which will change your results. 

Train yourself to be more LOYAL to your good feelings than your bad ones. If you do that,  you will attract to yourself the people, places, situations and things that will give you the life you want.

Have FAITH in attracting what you want because you're worth it..

Your LIFE Counts, You make a Difference in my Life

No doubt about it, it hurts to be ignored

The internet with all of its benefits also has a dark side to it, it makes us ignore ordinary people and lavish our attention and praise on celebrities, professional athletics, politicians and social influencers. For the most part, the rest of us get ignored  as if our ordinary lives do not count. 

My life counts even if know one else thinks so and so does yours. While we may not get any credit or appreciation for the good we do, it is the ordinary people, like you and me, that make the world work.  

It's people, like ourselves, working behind the scenes of 'daily life' that rarely get credit for doing the things that make living life possible. People like teachers, nurses, janitors, sanitation workers, truck drivers, clerks, factory workers, writers and  social workers to name just a few. 

The list of people who count in my life is endless and I am grateful for each and every one of them and that includes YOU. 

As an author and writer you complete me. Without you reading my words I would not be able to make a difference in your world. Thank you for allowing me to make a difference in your life today, As small as that difference might be. I am grateful for you.  💗💗💗💗

The CURE for Those Times You Feel UNLOVED

Beating yourself up or criticizing yourself pushes the self-love feeling away from you. On the other hand, loving yourself EXACTLY as you are attracts the self-love feeling back to you.

Feeling unloved lets you know that in some area/s of your life you are neglecting being kind and understanding of yourself. Read the 14 point Kindness Checklist to get back to that self-love feeling 

When you feel unloved forgive yourself for whatever you are thinking and/or doing that is causing you to feel a lack of love. 

Forgiving yourself will allow you to feel good about yourself again and any time you are feeling good, you are loving yourself.

Accepting that you are enough and that you do enough will keep you feeling that love for yourself. 

On the other hand, believing you are not good enough or that you don't do enough will take the self-love feeling away from you.

 

Frederick Zappone



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Do You Feel Misunderstood by People? (Article)

Our deepest and most lasting hurts come from people not understanding us. People not understanding us is the source of conflict and the one of the main reasons relationships (personal, business, social) end.

There is nothing more frustrating in life than when people don't understand us.  Without being understood by people we feel we are invisible in this world. Not being understood by people makes us feel powerless, helpless, and unwitting victims of life.

The Internet is a place people go to wanting to be understood by  others only to discover, time and time again, that they are misunderstood by others more than they are understood.

Internet communications are one dimensional.  You have words on a screen but you have no voice clues or body language to go along with those words to understand a person at the deepest level. 

That being said, what is the solution to being understood on the Internet? The solution is to be more direct in your communications with people. Spell things out in black and white terms rather than using vague words that cause people to misunderstand you. People are not mind readers so if you don't want to be misunderstood by people speak clearly to them. This applies to both online and offline conversations.

SPEAKING CLEARLY TO YOU.

Here are a few things you should know about me. 

 

I am writing this blog to connect with like-minded people. I want to contribute to the health and happiness of people who read my blog and in return I want my readers to support my blog.

SOME OTHER THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT ME.

I am much like you. I am an ordinary person striving to do the ordinary things in life, like writing, extraordinarily well.

I am not nearly as strong as many people think I am.  I am very protective of my vulnerable side. I am also not as smart as I sometimes lead people to believe. And I am definitely not all that loving. 

I have a 'mean streak' in me that I must rein in every single day. I go through my life with memories of anger running in the background of my mind because I have not yet taken full responsibility for the anger I experienced as child.  I am currently working on solving that problem.

HERE IS WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE...

 

To be understood by people is to feel loved by people. To feel misunderstand by people is to feel rejected by people.

I also know if people have no 'willingness' to understand me then no matter what I say to them or how I say it, they will not understand me. 

The reason some people have no willingness to understand us is because their interest isn't in understanding us, there interest is in controlling us. If we get upset when people don't understand us, that means they are controlling us. It also means we think we need those people more than they need us. 

When I come to the conclusion that a person has no willingness to understand me, I make that okay with myself and let the conversation go. Sometimes I let the person go too.

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If this short article was helpful to you in any way please leave me a comment. Your silence does not make me feel understood or loved but your comments do.  -  Frederick Zappone

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Doing the Ordinary Things In Life Extraordinarily well

Everything in life is a lesson for our growth so we can become the magnificent, powerful, lovable to the core people that we are destined to become.  When you are fully being yourself and fully expressing yourself with nothing held back you will never disappoint yourself. It is only when you hold yourself back in any way that you disappoint yourself.

I have worked all of my life to become the person I am today, an ordinary person who does the ordinary things in life extraordinarily  well. What you see on the outside of me matches the inside of me perfectly. In other words, what you see is what you get. My father told me to never preach a good sermon, Instead he encouraged me to live one. As a result of my dad's words, if I can't walk the talk, I don't talk it. I have mastered all of my fears by facing them head on and now I teach others how to do the same. If you want to be the master of your fears rather than the victim of them, visit my web page, lovesolvesall.com

ANTIDOTE to TRUMP upsetting you.

Expecting something, don't... Here is why

I have been on this planet a few years and I can tell you from personal experience and the personal experiences of  thousands of others, expectations have zero value except to cause you upset. Expectations are from hell. 

They are designed by the devil himself to stress you out, make you lose your patience and become frustrated when your expectations aren't being met when you think they should be met.  Worse yet, expectations stop you from taking inspired action to make sure what you want to happen will happen..


Winners and champions do not have expectations.   Instead they have confidence, in themselves, they will succeed at what they do and most of the times they do therefore they have no reason for expectations. Expectations set you up to be hurt and disappointed time and time again until you see expectations have no value in your life except to depress you and make you feel powerless and ineffective as a human being.

“If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never be disappointed.” ― Sylvia Plath

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.” ― Donald Miller

“When you stop expecting perfection from yourself, you will no longer expect it from others.” - Unknown

“Expectations give you false hope and set you up for failure.”  -  Elvis Presley

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Healing the Hurt So You Can Trust Again

LEARNING TO TRUST AGAIN IS PRETTY SIMPLE.
 
In order to trust again, you have to heal the hurt hiding behind the distrust. Healing yourself really means looking at the hurt straight in the eye until it disappears from your view. As long as you avoid the memory of the hurtful experience, on the cellular level, the memory continues to hurt you over and over again.  Once you re-visit the hurt and look it straight in the idea (observe it) the healing will begin and the emotional charge that is stopping you from trusting again will dissolve naturally.

Gratitude and Appreciation

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I am very grateful for being deeply disappointed.

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GRATITUDE MAKES THINGS GONE WRONG IN LIFE, GO RIGHT!

Being grateful for things gone wrong makes me feel better immediately because I understand the almost mystical powers of being a gratitude practitioner.  Being sincerely grateful for unpleasant things always turns them into good things for me.  

When I am grateful for the things that disappoint or hurt me, I am demonstrating my faith and trust in the 'organizing intelligence of the universe' (that many people call God) to turn what disappoints or hurts me into something good for me and it ALWAYS does.


Gratitude for all the things gone wrong in my life has made me happier, healthier and more prosperous in my heart, mind and soul than I could ever possibly imagine. And now I would like to share with you all that I know about the magical power of gratitude by sending you my free daily messages. These messages are filled with insights on how to use gratitude to attract more good things into your life to be grateful for. I also explain how to use gratitude to turn 'hurts and disappointments' into good things for you.

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Such Radical Honesty. I'm Impressed! (Blog post)

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A person who identified himself as Gene Michaels just posted the following comment on my Kindness Project Page. It is one of the most honest comments I have seen posted anywhere:
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Gene Michaels. Michigan

I personally don't feel kind all the time and I don't like to be kind all the time but I am no fool. I know even if I don't feel kind or want to be kind, being unkind is like lighting a match in a dry Forest. A vocal act of unkindness on my part will ignite a group of people to be unkind back to me. Since I know that, I handle all of my unkind feelings privately so I don't infect other people with my unkind attitudes which are a result of unkindness's done to me in the past.
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