Monday

Forgiveness CURES Depression (Believe it or Not)

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Before you can forgive yourself for something that is making your life miserable, you first must understand what it means to forgive yourself: 

Forgive means to:  

1. grant pardon for an offense ; to absolve; to set free from punishment. 2. to cease to feel resentment towards yourself or others. When you forgive yourself you are set free to create the life you want rather than being filled with feelings of  depression,  frustration, anxiety, fear. anger and dislike that stop you from creating your little piece of heaven on earth. The unwillingness to forgive yourself for the negative thoughts and emotions you feel make those 'nasty thoughts and feelings' stick to you like SUPER GLUE.  The more you resist what you feel, the more those feelings grow in strength and power over you.  Instead of resisting depression, every time you feel depressed, forgive yourself for feeling that way.  

If you forgive yourself for feeling depressed when you do, the depression you are experiencing will disappear from your life with no effort at all.   Forgiving yourself daily when feeling depressed along with forgiving yourself for anything else that makes you feel bad will dissolve your depression all together... 



A Session of Self-Forgiveness might look like this:

I forgive myself for feeling depressed.
I forgive myself for not being able to forgive myself for feeling depressed.
I forgive myself for thinking thoughts that depress me.
I forgive myself for resisting my depression and making it worse.
I forgive myself for depressing my thoughts and feelings rather than fully expressing them.
I forgive myself for thinking thoughts of hopelessness, helplessness and suicide. 
I forgive myself for not being as emotionally strong as I would like to be.
I forgive myself for not loving myself enough.
I forgive myself for not accepting myself exactly as I am.
I forgive myself for disliking and hating myself.
I forgive myself for beating myself up when I fail
I forgive myself for not being perfect.......

That's a start..... now add your personal forgiveness lines. 


I forgive myself for____________________________________
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I forgive myself for____________________________________ 
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I forgive myself for____________________________________ 
I forgive myself for____________________________________


What you BELIEVE about your depression determines whether you will be depressed for the rest of your life or not. Depression is not a disease unless you believe it is and for you it will be. That's the way disease latches on to you, through your beliefs. The excerpt below comes from an interview Tony Robbins did with Dr. Bernie Siegel about the power of your BELIEFS. - Frederick Zappone, Author: Feel Good Newsletter




FORGIVENESS LINKS:

 

Sunday

Forgiving yourself Ain't SEXY but it makes you feel better


Feel Good, No Matter What, Click Here
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The real addiction is pain, not pain killers. (Article)


The real addiction is not pain killers but pain itself, for if a person's wasn't addicted to pain, 
they would never have a need for pain killers in the first place.. - Frederick Zappone 


The Addiction to Pain 
By Deepak Chopra 

Common sense tells us that people naturally seek pleasure and avoid pain, but common sense is wrong. Pain is rarely a deterrent from destructive behavior. Sometimes the greater the pain, the more fiercely someone will cling to it. We see this on many fronts, from domestic abuse (when battered spouses repeatedly return to their abuser) to the Iraq conflict (where militias seem willing to slaughter each other until no one is left standing).

The ingredients of the addiction to pain are rooted in consciousness, the twists and turns of hidden motivations and beliefs. Masochism -- needing pain in order to feel pleasure -- is rarely a prime factor, in my experience. Rather, there's a stickiness to pain that overrides the physical and mental discomfort that pain obviously causes. By stickiness I mean the following:

Habit -- I'm used to my pain; it's too hard to change.
Victimization -- I'd like to be out of pain, but I'm too weak. Somebody stronger is responsible.
Revenge -- If I make you hurt more than I do, it's worth it
Numbness -- I don't feel anything, so I must not be hurting.
Religion - God wants me to feel this pain -- and you, too.
Ideology -- My pain is worthwhile because it serves a higher purpose
Shame -- I'd rather hurt than have others find out who the real me is.
Guilt -- Punishment is the redress to my past wrongs.





If pain is the real addiction, what is the solution?   This is one solution:

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You can medicate and sedate your pain, you can tolerate and put up with your pain or you can embrace your pain and make it disappear from your life with no effort at all. Let me show you know....
 

In this publication I share with you everything you need to know to dissolve any physical or emotional pain you are experiencing, right now, without the need for drugs or pills of any kind.  

If you are currently taking prescription drugs for your pain, I am not suggesting you quit taking them. Quite the contrary, keep taking them and  along with them implement the 'embracing the pain' technique I share with you in this 'cutting edge' publication to speed up the process of making pain disappear from your body with no effort at all.







TABLE OF CONTENTS

 
1. Learn why feeling the pain, heals it.
2. Embracing pain causes no pain.
3. The 'Embracing Pain' Methodology
4. Reversing Disease By Reversing Thought.
5. Many things you know about pain are not true.
6. Pain is weakness leaving the body.
7. Making Pain Disappear Without Drugs.
8. Evolutionary Thoughts About Pain
9. Pain is harmless until you label it...
10. His Thoughts CURED him of Cancer (True Story - Documented)



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Why Creative people FEAR Emptiness (Darkness, the Void)




Just as you cannot put new liquid into a glass until you empty the old, neither can the 'creative intelligence of the universe' put new ideas into your mind if it is full. And that why experiencing emptiness before creativity burst upon you is necessary - Frederick Zappone

Creative people have a terribly time with emptiness. They feel most ALIVE when they are creating new things whether it is through music, writing or the arts. And when emptiness descends upon them, it is so painful to them that they automatically run from it by drinking, drugging or others types of destruction behavior that numbs them so completely that they don't feel the emptiness at all.

Here are some examples of creative people who feared their emptiness:  Elvis Presley, Jimmy Hendrix,  Janis Joplin, Michael Jackson, Health Ledger, Whitney Houston, Thomas Kinkade to name just a few..



The reason creative people don't like the 'empty feeling' is because it is no man's land, it is uncharted territory, it is where they fear their demons live. In fact, the emptiness is where God lives.. 


I should know, instead of turning to drugs and alcohol, I got up the courage and traveled deep into the emptiness, the darkness, the void and I found my way back home again. But before I did, in my darkest moment, I touched the face of God.

THE BREEDING GROUND OF YOUR CREATIVITY

The 'empty feeling' is the breeding ground, the fertile soil where all creative ideas, large and small are born. And once born, they make their way, naturally and spontaneously, into the creative person's mind.

To be able to be with the 'empty feeling' without turning to drugs or alcohol allows creative people to 'energetically' connect with the 'organizing intelligence of the universe' the power behind all things both in heaven and on earth... However, in order to make that connection, first they must experience their deepest fears which are the demons they believe live within them. In reality they have no demons, only the fear that they do...and it is this fear that drives them thoughtlessly into destructive behaviors that causes them to, often times, tragically die before their time.

(Author Note: I was inspired to write this article about dealing with the emptiness associated with being a creative person after reading Carolyn Elliot's brilliant book titled: Awesome Your Life: the Artist's Antidote to Suffering Genius )

The following video is dedicated to creative people everywhere

 

Saturday

The 4 Rules of Being Happy NOW...

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Being Happy - Rule 1  
Being Happy - Rule 2  
Being Happy - Rule 3  
Being Happy - Rule 4

Project Forgive, A Community of HAPPY People, Click Here

God's Will, A Mystery No Longer....

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The More I Give, The More I RECEIVE, Click Here

The More Love You Give, The More Love You Receive

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The more love you give, the more love you receive. To receive love, you first must give it. To give it, you first must love yourself because without loving yourself, you will have no love to give to others.  I use to hate myself and so I had to teach myself  how to love me. Once I did that, I felt so much love inside of myself that I felt if I didn't give it away I would burst. I then discovered the more love I gave away, the more love that was returned to me.  This video is a perfect example. The song on it was sung and recorded especially for me in exchange for the love and support I've given a new friend of mine that I met online. Her voice melts my heart because I can feel the love she is giving back to me. In return, after hearing her song, I added pictures to it and turned her mp3 file into video as my gift of love multiplied back to her... She is my friend and she demonstrates the kind of warm, passionate caring love friends can share with one another without turning the love we feel for one other into something it is not. We are true friends and that benefits each of us enough.  - Frederick Zappone, author of The More I Give, The More I Receive
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GIVING LOVE AWAY

If you feel love for someone and don't share it with them it is like wrapping a gift for someone you love and then not giving it to them. That's why when I feel love, I always express it to those I love. As an example, here is a  valentine card I sent to all the women I love.





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Friday

The 'LIGHT' in Nora's Eyes - Stunning

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I have known Nora since I was six years old. She is my best friend, even to this day we meet twice a month for lunch. She is a spiritual intuitive and Medium.  Nora and her friend Debbie are coming out with their first book titled: Tripping Over Enlightenment.  I read the book before it was sent to the publisher and even wrote a review about it. It is an exceptional book, brilliantly written. To learn more about their noteworthy book or contact the authors, click on this link: http://momentintimeproductions.yolasite.com/

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Worst 5 Minutes of my LIFE

















Forgiveness Saved my ASS when nothing else could, Click Here
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You won't need a Lawyer (Photo says it all)

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Nothing like straight talk (from the heart) to get people's attention
















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I am the most selfish person in the world and people love me.

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I give people my time, talent and money and I serve people, that's what I do.  Am I some kind of Mother Teresa?  Not a chance, I am as selfish and as imperfect as the next person. The reason I give and serve people is because it is in my best interests to do so.  The more I give, the more I receive. To read my complete article on giving to receive, visit the main page of my web site: frederickzappone.com



To Watch an Inspirational Video About FORGIVENESS, Click Here
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Thursday

Forgiveness Heals Physical and Emotional Wounds.

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Forgive means to: 1. grant pardon for an offense ; to absolve; to set free from punishment. 2. to cease to feel resentment towards yourself or others. When you forgive yourself you are set free to magically create the life you want rather than being filled with feelings of   frustration, anxiety, fear. anger and dislike that stop you from creating your little piece of heaven on earth. The unwillingness to forgive yourself for the negative thoughts you think and for the mistakes you make, makes 'nasty feelings' stick to you like SUPER GLUE.


I am the 'Forgiveness Voice' For others.
 

Many people have lost their ability to forgive themselves for things that stop them from making their dreams come true. Forgiveness sets people free from the thoughts and feelings that have, in the past, stopped them from attracting to themselves, naturally and effortlessly, the things they really do want out of life.. Acting as the VOICE of Forgiveness for others I have listed things people would like to forgive themselves for but have never taken the time to do so. See if you find in the list below things you haven't yet forgiven yourself for or add a 'forgiveness' comment of your own.

I forgive myself for thinking I'm stupid.
I forgive myself for feeling like a failure.
I forgive myself for letting fear stop me.
I forgive myself for not seeing my good.
I forgive myself for not being perfect enough.
I forgive myself for creating lack and scarcity.

I forgive myself for blaming others for my misery.
I forgive myself for not being able to forgive myself.
I forgive myself for criticizing myself about everything.
I forgive myself for being more negative than I like to be.
I forgive myself for feeling I do not measure up to others.
I forgive myself for mentally belittling and criticizing others.
I forgive myself for for judging people as dumb or stupid.
I forgive myself for not allowing my dreams to come true.
I forgive myself for working too hard and not relaxing enough.
I forgive myself for living my life disbelieving I can have what I want.
I forgive myself for not being as smart and intelligent as I would like to be.
I forgive myself for making decisions which do not leave me feeling good.
I forgive myself for blocking myself from receiving money and recognition from people
I forgive myself for allowing feelings of anger and depression to be outside my conscious control
I forgive myself for not knowing how to take full responsibility for everything that happens to me in life.

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  • Taking Care of YOU.. (Photo)


    Fear stops us from taking care of each other because it makes us believe in lack and scarcity whereas love create the 'real life' experience of abundance everywhere.... And abundant people always want to take good care of other people the same way other abundant people take good care of them......



    To Watch an Inspirational Video About FORGIVENESS, Click Here

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    Waking up and Stepping into the HAPPY Space.


    My Daddy said to me: 'Son, the secret to living a life filled with happiness, health and prosperity is this: Take good care of the people who take good care of you'. And I do. When I wake up in the morning, the first thing I do is step into my happy space that makes me happy all day long. And that happy space is giving. 

    The GIVING of my time, talent and money to the people and projects I love keeps me in my happy space all day long. And it will you too when you discover giving to others will give back to you everything you ever wanted and more. - Frederick Zappone




    The More I GIVE, The More I RECEIVE


    By Frederick Zappone

    I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, not even close, but I have found the secret to successful living and that secret is found in GIVING.
    When I freely give to others, I receive back all that I want and more.

    Giving freely of my time, talent and money to others has solved every bad attitude I have ever had and has attracted back to me all the good things I ever wanted. The only time I have problems in life, these days, is when I am not giving or when I am focused on me and not focused on others who are connected to me and are as important as me.

    That being said, the secret to giving is giving what you have an abundance of to give and never giving what you have a lack or scarcity of, that kind of giving will make you sick, bitter and very depressed.

    In the beginning, I had very little money so I didn't give money away. I did, however, have an abundance of time along with millions of words of encouragement, support and inspiration. The endless giving of what I had to give attracted into my life what I did not have to give, which was money. I now give money too.

    Here's a list of other benefits I receive back when I give generously of my time, talent and money to others.

    1. Giving deepens my connection to the Divine.
    2. Giving creates feelings of abundance inside of me.
    3. Giving releases me from feelings of lack and scarcity.
    4. Giving eliminates my pain of feeling separate from others.
    5. Giving expands my ability to see opportunities everywhere.
    6. Giving releases me from fear, anxiety, worry and depression.
    7. Giving connects me to people in very loving and compassionate ways.
    8. Giving create unconditional feelings of love inside me that wash over me continuously.

    If you have any questions or comments about this article, write me.

    -- Frederick Zappone

    To contact me, email me at:
    gratitude@frederickzappone.com



    Wednesday

    Forgiveness Weight Loss Program... (No dieting or exercise)




    Forgive means to: 1. grant pardon for an offense ; to absolve; to set free from punishment. 2. to cease to feel resentment, hatred or dislike towards your body. When you forgive yourself you are set free to have the body you want rather than being filled with feelings of resentment, anger, frustration, and anxiety towards your body that keeps the weight on.  If you can't forgive yourself for the mistakes you made with your body those 'nasty feelings' about your body will stick to you like SUPER GLUE.


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    Here are the links to the back story of this weight loss post :
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    If you have a weight problem, guaranteed you have terrible conversations with your body that keep you stuck not being able to lose the weight you want and keeping it off. The quickest way to lose weight without diet or exercise is to forgive yourself for everything you do wrong to your body. Before continuing to read this, read the back story links (listed above) and then come back and go through the body forgiveness exercise... After you do the exercise, leave a comment (anonymous or otherwise). Share how you felt about your body before you did the exercise and how you felt after you did it along with sharing the feeling and emotions this body exercise invoked in you.

    The Body Forgiveness Exercise:

    Repeat slowing, out loud if possible, the following 'I Forgive 
    Myself' sentences and be aware of which ones make your body 
    feel better and which ones make your body feel worse.

    I forgive myself for rejecting my body.
    I forgive myself for not accepting my body exactly as it is.
    I forgive myself for emotionally and physically abusing my body.
    I forgive myself for being insensitive to my body.
    I forgive myself for not trusting my body to keep the weight off.
    I forgive myself for what I've done to my body.
    I forgive myself for hating my body.
    I forgive myself for stressing my body out too much
    I forgive myself for resisting the pain my body feels.
    I forgive the people who made me hate or dislike my body.
    I forgive the people who criticized and made fun of my body.
    I forgive myself for creating situations that cause me to overeat.
    I forgive myself for associating with people who make me overeat.
    I forgive myself for putting pressure on myself by trying too hard.
    I forgive myself for beating myself up about my weight.
    I forgive myself ______________________fill in the blank

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    In the comment section below (the body talk newsletter form), add 
    your own 'I FORGIVE MYSELF FOR__________ and then let me know how 
    you feel about your body after doing the forgiveness exercise,,


    Forgiving Sh*thead (Humor)



    Dear Linda Lu,

    Since I got off the phone I have pushed myself and have pushed myself because I like feeling like sh*t. More importantly, I like feeling like a stupid sh*t....for pushing myself beyond what my body wants me to do....and I don't care because when it comes to my ego and my body, the body doesn't stand a chance in h*ll... Of course my body has the power to say ' Sh*t on you Zappone' and shut down, leaving my ego up sh*t creek without a paddle.... Now that I have f*cked myself over royally... I am going to forgivement myself and go pay, typos and alll


    I forgive myself for being a sh*thead.
    I forgive myself for punishing my body when I know better.
    I forgive myself for being such a stupid sh*t.
    I forgive myself for letting my ego/mind/head full of sh*t brain run my life.
    I forgive myself for not having enough toilet paper to wipe the sh*t off my sh*thead.
    I forgive myself for being a glutton for punishment.
    I forgive myself for not knowing how to stop myself from being a sh*thead.

    That being said, this sh*thead is now going to go play... starting with a nap!

    With much love from your friendly Sh*thead Friend, Frederick


    P. S. Linda Lu, I am not alone 






    TO MY VISITORS AND GUESTS

    I forgive myself because I have offended some of you with my humor 
    I forgive myself for not caring what you think of me because


    I learned a long time ago that I could either care about people or care about what they think of me and I couldn't have it both ways. That being the case, I care about you, not what you think of me.


    Related Forgiveness LINKS: 
    Teach 'Forgiveness' in Your Business or School, To Learn more, Click Here







    Forgiveness Cure Him of Terminal Cancer

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    Greg's extraordinary and powerful personal story concerns the ability of forgiveness and emotional release to reverse the course of terminal lung cancer. His story of healing was the most compelling I’ve ever heard and it changed my understanding of how people heal. Greg considers his release of anger and extremely difficult but sincere act of forgiveness toward a former business associate to be the pivotal turning point in his illness. Greg had only a couple weeks to live when this occurred and he has now made a full recovery from his “incurable” late-stage cancer. Following his dramatic encounter and act of forgiveness with his former associate and nemesis, he spent several hours alone crying in his car, overcome with emotional relief and incapable of driving. Again and again he repeated the phrase, “I’m free. I’m free. I’m free.” And so he was. From that day forward, Greg’s physical condition began to improve. His heart, mind and spirit had already been healed.

    It Really Can Happen in a Moment!

    Back in 1984, Greg had only a few weeks to live when he made the decision to finally heal his relationships with everyone in his life, including his former “enemy.” He then made a full recovery from his “incurable” late-stage metastatic lung cancer. Within a year, he made the decision to help others heal their cancer based on what he had learned through his own difficult journey. In 1985, he founded the nonprofit Cancer Recovery Foundation of America.

    Greg's Story: (in his own words)

     

     


    "The Law of Forgiveness is a tough taskmaster. It forces us to examine our motives. It requires us to look deep within. The work of forgiveness demands that we give up the need to always be right. That is a big request.

    The Law of Forgiveness can be misunderstood. It is not asking us to betray our deepest beliefs or disregard our principles. We need not compromise our personal integrity by failing to stand up for what we hold to be true. The law does not imply that we are to live our lives trying to please everyone at the risk of being untrue to ourselves. However, the law does ask us to become keenly aware of how often we engage in verbal and emotional combat that has less to do with higher principles and personal integrity than it does with our perceptions of being right.

    The Law of Forgiveness demands that I come to a very important realization: in these matters, it is not my spirit that demands to be right, it is my frail ego.

    Realize that this law and its demands are as true of marriages as of business transactions. Forgiveness is for the workplace and for parenting, for young and old, for black and white. Forgiveness applies to everything, to everyone, all the time. This is what is meant by life being lived most abundantly as an adventure in forgiveness.

    Nothing contaminates the life of wellness more than resentment, remorse, and recrimination. These states of heart and mind do more to stand in the way of our wellness than virtually any other dynamic.

    If the daily practice of the Law of Forgiveness is the only way out, what does this law look like in action? I know from vivid personal experience. I can trace the absolute turning point in my own illness directly to the work of forgiveness. Weak, emaciated, lying at home in constant pain, I was going downhill rapidly by all physical measurements. Doctors, family, even my own mind - all believed I was about to die of cancer.

    Yet something kept driving me. I would place phone calls to organizations all over the country, seeking others who had gone through a similar situation and lived. I wanted to learn from their experience. I kept hearing people talk about forgiveness. "You need to forgive," said a woman in Boise, Idaho. A man from Tennessee put it plainly: "The difference is forgiveness." My first reaction was "I probably don't have many issues of forgiveness to deal with. Forgiveness isn't my problem.”

    I was wrong. Forgiveness was my issue. My critical attitude was first. Why did I look at a situation and always pick out what was wrong? I'd do it constantly. People were my favorite target. I would make a quick study of someone and actively seek out his Achilles' heel. "What's wrong with him?" I'd think. It was all an effort to put someone else down in order to build myself up. Distorted thinking, bereft of charity and compassion.

    The worst example was my behavior at work. When a new controller was brought in, and I suddenly had to seek approval for all our division's expense budgets through this new 'intruder, I saw the whole setup as a huge threat to my position. So, without really making a conscious decision, I began to attack. I became critical of the controller's plans. I tried to undermine his work. I threw stones at his policies. I became critical of him personally.

    My criticism led to condemnation. I set myself up as judge and jury. If I was superior, then I was right. In fact, I always had to be right. Therefore, the new controller was, by definition, wrong. I condemned him and then went about proving it to others. As I look back, I see that it was only three months between the time the new controller came on board and the onset of my cancer diagnosis. I believe there was a link between my toxic behavior and the onset of my illness.

    What I didn't count on was a counter attack. The new controller fought back, pointing out my failures to institute more effective financial controls. He was equally skilled at finding a person's weak point. And the battle between the two of us became a company-wide problem that began to drag everyone down.

    I am saddened and mortified about how it came to a head. We were in a meeting with three other division heads and the CEO. My adversary the controller passed around a budget update. Trying to be flippant, I took my copy of the document, threw it across the table, and proclaimed, "These numbers are a crock of -----." The report hit the CEO's coffee cup, the contents of which spilled into his lap.He jumped up, glared at me, pointed a finger and said, "Get the hell out of here." I went back to my office, then headed to my car. I began to see how absolutely ludicrous my behavior had been.

    That kind of behavior consumes vast amounts of emotional energy. It produces a negative and contrary spirit that is toxic to us and to others. I had my entire sense of worth invested in always being right. I suppose it was an issue of perception. I was so concerned with what other people thought of me that I never considered I might be wrong. I needed everyone to know that I was right and to acknowledge it.

    But the story takes an even more bizarre twist. Within thirty days of my diagnosis of lung cancer, my adversary the controller was diagnosed with cancer. Now, I have had medical authorities tell me that he probably had been carrying the cancer for years and it had just then been discovered, as had mine. But my intuition tells me that our toxic battle contributed to the onset of both illnesses.

    I underwent surgery that removed a lung. But surgery was impossible for my nemesis the controller. The disease had already spread. As the weeks passed, both of us grew progressively worse.

    Four months later, a second surgery confirmed that the cancer had spread from my lung through the lymph system. The following day the surgeon made a statement that is indelibly etched in my mind. "Greg," he said, "the tiger is out of the cage. Your cancer has come roaring back. I'd give you about thirty days to live."

    It was that moment that I began my journey in search of wellness. Lying in bed, at home, I continued to deteriorate physically. But I made those phone calls in search of survivors and I kept hearing 'forgive.'

    One morning I awoke and I realized that I did have a monumental task of forgiveness ahead of me. I felt a deep conviction that this was the thing for me to do. From my sickbed I began the solitary work of forgiveness. I believe that this was the precise turning point in my illness.

    The Law of Forgiveness carries with it the idea of process. That is, there are actions and conscious decisions that are integral to the forgiveness phenomenon. Any number of legitimate ways to proceed exist, but they each share this idea of helping us release resentment, express negative feelings, and let go of past wrongs, both real and imagined. Once the idea of process has been grasped, it only needs to be applied with consistency and sincerity to bring immediate results.

    The essence of the various processes is quite simple: become aware of the person toward whom we feel hostility, express active release from that hostility, and picture good things happening to him or her.

    In the privacy of my bedroom, I made a sign on a sheet of paper. It reads:
    NAME
    RELEASE
    AFFIRM

    With that sign propped at my bedside, I started a list of the people in my life. I put my wife first. I closed my eyes, relaxed, and created a clear picture of her in my mind. Then, from my heart, I imagined myself saying to her, "I forgive you. I totally and completely forgive you for every perceived wrong you have done - and for anything you have left undone." And I would pause, allowing ample time to remember and release specific instances. I wouldn't dwell on the specifics. I would just recall them and release them, recognizing that it was I, not my wife, who was really being let off the hook.

    I would end the work with each person by picturing something good happening to him or her. I knew that my wife wanted and needed to receive continual reassurance of my love for her. I pictured her receiving that. I knew that another person with whom I'd had a falling-out wanted a new sports car. I imagined him happily driving down the freeway in his red Porsche. The point is, part of the process I used was to actively see something good happening to the person I was forgiving.

    This was not always a smooth experience. It became fascinating for me to watch my own resistance. It was relatively easy to express forgiveness and mean it. To actively release the hurt was more challenging, but repeating the release three or four times typically helped me make the emotional and spiritual shift that was required. Many times I would say, "God, you take this. I cannot handle it anymore."

    The third element of the process was the real test for me. It was difficult to envision good things happening to many of the people I wanted and needed to forgive. But I was sincerely committed to the process. I did not have an expectation of ease. I would see this through.

    I discovered I was intensely angry with my father. He never was able to express his love. In fact, his approach to child raising was to emotionally put down and never, not once, build up. I found it very difficult to totally release my perceptions of being wronged. And I found it next to impossible to imagine, with sincerity, something good happening to him. I spent nearly two days just on the work of forgiving my father. Tough stuff.

    The work on forgiving my father taught me an important lesson. His actions resulted from huge hurts of his own. They had nothing to do with me. The inability to express love was a direct reflection of his own upbringing. I shifted my perspective from blaming him for all that was missing to understanding how I may also have contributed to the situation. I was rebellious. I did not obey. I was sarcastic. Perhaps the only way to reach me was through put-downs.

    Down the list I went. Name people; forgive and release them; affirm them. Many times I went back to names, especially those where the memories created feelings of unease. And I offered my forgiveness with deep sincerity. This insight extended to other relationships. As I would forgive and release, I still might not approve of the way a person handled a particular situation. But after completing the process of forgiveness, I could generally understand the situation better and begin to see my own part in it.

    Sometimes forgiveness requires work above and beyond the call of duty. This was the case with the controller. I had spent hours forgiving and releasing and trying to imagine great things happening to him. About noon of the fourth straight day of forgiveness, I came out of the bedroom for lunch. It was then I realized that my work with him needed to take on a more personal touch. I needed to visit him and express my apologies.

    This was not easy. I made a call to the office and found that he was at home, and not doing well. I phoned and his wife answered. Her voice immediately telegraphed surprise and shock to be talking to me; she knew full well the battle that raged between her husband and me. I said, "I want to come out and visit, this afternoon. When would be a good time?" She said she'd have to check. "I'll hang on," I replied. The time was set.

    When was the last time your heart felt like it would pound right out of your chest? My emotions went on overdrive. On the way to his house, I wanted to turn back. My steps in making the short walk between the curb and his front door were some of the most difficult I have ever taken. The whole time, my heart was in my throat. But I pressed on. I felt that my life hinged on this sincere effort of forgiveness.

    What do you say to someone whom you have previously considered an enemy? How do you communicate your changed feelings? Are words ever adequate to make up for the emotional havoc one has caused? I was greeted and led into the bedroom, where my adversary was propped up in his bed with pillows. And with my heart pounding, adrenaline rushing, voice shaking, I barely managed to stutter out a few words to this effect:

    "I have come to say I am sorry." A long pause to gather some composure. My voice still breaking, I continued: "I deeply regret the hurt I have caused you." Another pause. I remember my right hand and arm were shaking, out of my control. I tried to steady them with my left hand. In a whisper I finished: "I want you to know I wish you only the best."

    Those words were imperfect, to be sure. They were delivered in a voice that was gripped with fear. But they came from my heart, sincere in every aspect. They must have been effective. Because my adversary struggled to sit up, swung his feet over the edge of the bed, and motioned me to come and sit by his side.

    Greg," he said, "I am the one who needs to say I'm sorry. I'm old enough to be your father. Yet I treated you like the outcast son. Please forgive me." His wife was crying. She knelt on the floor and the three of us embraced. We all cried. Finally, it was my old adversary who found the strength to mutter a prayer: "Dear God, forgive us all."

    We said brief good-byes and I left. As I started the car back toward home, I took a deep breath and said out loud, "Whew!" A weight was being lifted. I could feel it, sense it, was part of it: the clouds that had been tormenting me were beginning to part. The day seemed brighter. Was it the sun, or was it this catharsis that had just taken place?

    My posture changed. I went from being hunched over to sitting erect in the seat. I held my head more upright. The tension in my shoulders lessened dramatically. The wrinkles on my forehead melted away. I relaxed. The pain was gone. The quivering hand was steady. A smile came across my face.
    I'm frre!" I whispered. "I'm free," I repeated, this time louder. In a crescendo I exclaimed, "I'm free! I'm free! I'm free!" I shouted it: "I'm free!" Tears gushed down my cheeks in torrents. My vision became blurred. I quickly pulled off onto a side street, parked the car, and wept, out of control, for a long, long time. I remember the eyes of a lad who came to the window. I wonder how long he had been watching me. "Hey, mister," he said, "you need help?" No, no. I'm fine." And I made my way home.

    RELEASE. SET FREE. I look back to my week of the sincere work of forgiveness and realize this was the absolute turning point in my physical healing. From that point in time, I began to gain back lost weight, manage pain more readily, and hold more positive thoughts about my future.

    Do I believe there was a link between this deeply spiritual work and my physical improvement? Absolutely. I believe that practicing the Law of Forgiveness changes us bio-chemically. And in the process, the body is released toward its optimum wellness potential. I know that my doctor and scientist friends get very uncomfortable when I share these beliefs. But it seems we can all agree on this: life quality soars when we sincerely practice the Law of Forgiveness. And this just may be an important determinant in releasing the body's self-healing potential.

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    Life can indeed be lived most abundantly as an adventure in forgiveness. Forgive. Set yourself free."
    Reprinted with permission from “The 22 Non-Negotiable Laws of Wellness: Feel, Think, and Live Better Than You Ever Thought Possible” (HarperCollins/HarperSanFransisco). Copyright © 1995 by Greg Anderson.

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    When I've Screwed Up, Self-Forgiveness saved me

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    Beating myself up for the mistakes I make is a hell of a way to go through life. And since it is no longer acceptable for me to beat myself up when I make mistakes, turning to forgiveness saves my ass.

    Forgive means to: 1. grant pardon for an offense ; to absolve; to set free from punishment. 2. to cease to feel resentment against yourself or others. When you forgive yourself you are set free to create what you want rather than being filled with feelings of resentment, anger, frustration, anxiety, fear and dislike. The unwillingness to forgive yourself for your mistakes makes 'nasty feelings' stick to you like SUPER GLUE.   

    Forgiveness is a gift I give myself as a way to release all thoughts and feelings of fear, violence and anxiety that pass through my mind in the course of a day. Forgiveness allows me to release what troubles and upsets me so I am free to move on with my life and fulfill my destiny

    All of us have negative thoughts and feelings about ourselves, from time to time, that can undermine our ability to feel good, no matter what.  If we resist those thoughts and feelings, they grow stronger and have the power to make us believe the worst about ourselves rather than the best.......

    A FORGIVENESS LIST SETS ME FREE

    When I forgive myself  for having various negative thoughts and feeling about myself, I set myself free from those nagging thoughts and they lose their power to worry, torment, hurt or harm me in any way.

    I forgive myself for feeling fear, right now.
    I forgive myself for being too hard on myself.
    I forgive myself for feeling anxious, right now.
    I forgive myself for feeling insecure, right now.
    I forgive myself for not trusting God more, right now.
    I forgive myself for hating myself so much, right now.
    I forgive myself for beating myself up when I make mistakes.
    I forgive myself for wanting to control things that are not mine to control.
    I forgive myself for not loving and accepting myself exactly as I am, right now.
    I forgive myself for feeling like I have nothing of value to offer people, right now.
    I forgive myself for feeling like an absolute worthless piece of shit, right not
    I forgive myself for not impressing people the way other people do.

    Forgiveness always begins with me.  It is a gift I give to myself so I can give it to others  If I don't forgive myself first, I have no power or ability to forgive others.

    When I forgive myself for thinking the worst about me, I am able to separate myself from those thoughts and feelings. Once I do that, I see that no matter how terrible my thoughts and feelings might be about me, they are not who I am. Who I truly am, in spite of thoughts that show up in my mind that try to convince me otherwise, is a
    magnificent, powerful and lovable to the core human being and you are too.

    A God Larger Than Our DIFFERENCES. (Short and Sweet)


     
    A God larger than all of our conflicting and competing beliefs about God is called the organizing intelligence of the universe. A spark of this 'intelligence'  lives inside of each of us whether we be Christian, Muslim, Jew or Atheist.  We can use this spark of intelligence that lives inside of us to draw ourselves closer to God and each other or to deny God and destroy one another.- Frederick Zappone, One Magnificent Thought 









    Tuesday

    THE ULTIMATE Ethnic Joke (Humor)

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    An Englishman, a Scotsman, an Irishman, a Welshman, a Newfie, a Yank, a Latvian, a Turk, a German, an Indian, several Americans (including a Hawaiian and an Alaskan), an Argentinean, a Dane, an Australian, a Slovak, an Egyptian, a Japanese, a Moroccan, a Frenchman, a New Zealander, a Spaniard, a Russian, a Guatemalan, a Colombian, a Pakistani, a Malaysian, a Croatian, a Uzbek, a Cypriot, a Pole, a Lithuanian, a Chinese, a Sri Lankan, a Lebanese, a Cayman Islander, a Ugandan, a Vietnamese, a Korean, a Uruguayan, a Czech, an Icelander, a Mexican, a Finn, a Honduran, a Panamanian, an Andorran, an Israeli, a Venezuelan, an Iranian, a Fijian, a Peruvian, an Estonian, a Syrian, a Brazilian, a Portuguese, a Liechtensteiner, a Mongolian, a Hungarian, a Canadian, a Moldovan, a Haitian, a Norfolk Islander, a Macedonian, a Bolivian, a Cook Islander, a Tajikistani, a Samoan, an Armenian, an Aruban, an Albanian, a Greenlander, a Micronesian, a Virgin Islander, a Georgian, a Bahaman, a Belarusian, a Cuban, a Tongan, a Cambodian, a Canadian, a Qatari, an Azerbaijani, a Romanian, a Chilean, a Kyrgyzstani, a Jamaican, a Filipino, a Ukrainian, a Dutchman, a Ecuadorian, a Costa Rican, a Swede, a Bulgarian, a Serb, a Swiss, a Greek, a Belgian, a Singaporean, an Italian, a Norwegian and 2 Africans......

    ..All Walk into a fine restaurant.

    "I'm sorry," says the maƮtre d' after scrutinizing the group, one by one, and barring their entrance into the restaurant.

    "You can't come in here without a Thai.

    To Watch an Inspirational Video About FORGIVENESS, Click Here

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    Teach 'Forgiveness' in Your Business or School

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    Forgiveness is not a religious thing, it is a human thing and it saves lives. Forgiveness restores harmony and make life flow effortlessly. If you are interested in teaching 'Forgiveness' in your school, church, business or organization, contact me. I will provide you with course information. 

    For the present time, the teaching tools and course information are being offered to qualified teachers, ministers and business leaders free of charge in exchange for a donation in the amount of your choosing. For more information about the Forgiveness Course write me, by clicking here. Tell me a little bit about yourself and why you want to implement the 'Forgiveness Course' in your business, school, group, organization or church.- Frederick Zappone, Author of the Feeling Good, No Matter What, Newsletter.

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    I am a Forgiveness Freak (Photo)

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    The more I focused on forgiveness, the more things I found to forgive myself for. The more I forgave myself, the better I felt. The better I felt, the more I wanted to give and do for Project Forgive. The more I wanted to give and do for Project Forgive, the more incredible things I learned about the life changing power of forgiveness. This information on forgiveness is allowing me to become the MAGNIFICENT, POWERFUL, LOVABLE to the core person my creator intended for me to be. This is not only happening to me, it is happening to everyone associated with this project... (Excerpt from How I caught 'Forgiveness Fever' )

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    Monday

    Forgiving Myself For Being the Overly Sensitive Type

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    I am an overly sensitive type. I get hurt very easily. 

    I have been that way all my life.. I have tried to change my sensitivity, I have cursed my sensitivity, I have prayed to God to take my sensitivity away from me and instead my sensitivity has grown stronger. As a result of getting hurt easily, in order for me to be fully effective at what I do and not be drained of energy, I have to immediately forgive myself when I am easily hurt so I can let go of the hurt and move on.

    What it REALLY Means to Forgive

    Forgive means to: 1. grant pardon for an offense ; to absolve; to set free from punishment. 2. to cease to feel resentment against yourself or others. When you forgive yourself you are set free to create what you want rather than being filled with feelings of resentment, anger, frustration, anxiety, fear or hurt. The unwillingness to forgive yourself or others for mistakes made makes 'nasty feelings' stick to you like SUPER GLUE. 

     


    Forgiveness sets me free to be a full blown ME.

    I begin every day by forgiving myself for everything and anything that comes up in my mind that is stopping me from SHINING my LIGHT on other people brilliantly.. And every time I consciously forgive myself for something, it frees me up to be a full blown ME...

    The list below contains things I forgive myself for. It also contains a list of things other people want to forgive themselves for but have lost their voice to do so.  I will put an (O) next to other people's forgiveness issues to separate them from mine.

    I forgive myself for not being able to forgive myself (O)
    I forgive myself for being too sensitive and getting hurt easily.
    I forgive myself for not making a bigger difference in the world.
    I forgive myself for making money such a big deal in my life.
    I forgive myself for treating the people I love poorly (O)
    I forgive myself for worrying way too much (O)
    I forgive myself for not living up to my own high standards.
    I forgive myself for being jealous of other people's success. (O)
    I forgive myself for not thinking more highly of myself.
    I forgive myself for being too hard on myself.
    I forgive myself  for being in a 'low energy mood' today,
    I forgive myself for believing people don't love and care about me. (O)
    I forgive myself for not being in more harmony with my body.
    I forgive myself for not being perfect.
    I forgive myself for my past financial mistakes.  

    Author's Note: One of the important things I have learned about forgiveness is the moment I forgive myself, Good forgives me too.  Whatever I loosen on earth, God loosens in heaven. Forgiveness gives me a clean slate and makes me feel brand new again....and that's why I forgive myself and others daily, if not hourly, when required to do so. - Frederick Zappone

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    Saturday

    How I caught 'Forgiveness Fever'...

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    I got involved with Project Forgive early on and have found it to be one of the most inspirational experiences of my lifetime. Inspiring for many reasons beginning with realizing just how powerful forgiveness really was in setting me free from all the things that were holding me back and stopping me from truly being me..

    There's a saying regarding the law of attraction that goes like this:

    Whatever you FOCUS your attention on, you ATTRACT more of the same...

    And when it came to being actively involved with Project Forgive, boy was that ever the truth.. 


    Catching Forgiveness FEVER 

    The more I focused on forgiveness, the more things I found to forgive myself for. The more I forgave myself, the better I felt. The better I felt, the more I wanted to give and do for Project Forgive. And the more I wanted to do for Project Forgive, the more incredible things I learned about the life changing power of forgiveness. This information on forgiveness is allowing me to become the MAGNIFICENT, POWERFUL, LOVABLE to the core person my creator intended for me to be. This is not only happening to me, it is happening to everyone associated with this project...
     
    One of the best things that is coming out of my involvement with Project Forgive is that Forgiveness is rendering my EGO harmless so that pesky creature's ability to torment me and make my life  miserable is losing all power over me....

    Forgiveness is Da BOMB!...

    Forgive means to: 1. grant pardon for an offense ; to absolve; to set free from punishment. 2. to cease to feel resentment against yourself or others. When you forgive yourself you are set free to create what you want rather than being filled with feelings of resentment, anger, frustration, resistance and dislike.The unwillingness to forgive yourself for your mistakes makes 'nasty feelings' stick to you like SUPER GLUE. 


    Beginning My Day With Forgiveness 

    I begin every day by forgiving myself for everything and anything that comes up in my mind that is stopping me from SHINING my LIGHT on other people brilliantly.. And every time I consciously forgive myself for something, it frees me up to be a full blown ME...

    This is a copy of one of my daily Forgiveness exercises... (The things I forgive myself and others for changes daily. Sometimes it stays the same if I repeat the same mistake)

    I forgive myself for trying too hard.
    I forgive myself for not being smart enough at times.
    I forgive myself for the times I am insensitive to others.
    I forgive myself for not knowing how to balance creativity and play.
    I forgive myself for not taking better care of my body.
    I forgive myself for getting hurt too easily..
    I forgive myself for pushing myself past the point of feeling good.

    ADDED THESE FORGIVENESS NOTES AS I WROTE THIS ARTICLE

    I forgive myself for running behind on my schedule.
    I forgive myself for putting too much pressure on myself to get this done as fast as I can.
    I forgive myself for beating myself up when I don't meet my own performance expectations.


    THE #1 SELF-FORGIVENESS BENEFIT

    Forgiveness sets me free from pretending to be something I am not. When I pretend with anyone about anything for any reason, I am not being me but rather a counterfeit me. Being a counterfeit me no longer  feels good to me at all and it stop me from showing up in this world as a BRILLIANT LIGHT that I know each of us are meant to be. That's my forgiveness story and I am sticking to it... :) 

    -- Frederick Zappone, Inspired Living





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